Sleepover!

[jessad]

My dd is 18. She has a boyfriend her 2nd and they have been together a year. She wants him to stay over. She stays at his house and I am very well aware they sleep together she uses contraception we do talk , but I am not comfortable with them sleeping together in my house. Am I being a nit hypocritical and should I let them?

On the one hand it's your house and your rules. Fair enough.

The consequence of not allowing it might be that she spends more and more time at his home though. Do you have younger DC?

What is it you aren't comfortable with?

She is an adult and it is not a new or casual relationship.
You are perfectly entitled to say no but I would think very carefully before you do.

Your house, your rules.

But it does sound a bit old fashioned these days not to let them stay in the same room. She's an adult, and it is a long term relationship.

If you say no, i assume she'll spend a lot more time at her boyfriends house?

I'm with you jessad - 'my house, my rules'.

When she is adult enough to be earning and paying for her own flat/house, then she can devise her own rules to suit her.