Hi, my daughter has an ED. she blogs about positive steps in her recovery. Juniperbaby.wordpress I blog about how being a Dad of a daughter with ED feels,
Top tips....read about the Maudsley method. There is a good book available via amazon. You need to become a dolphin (its in the book) .... Your husband is a Rhino...like me...it doesn't work....parents have to change. You are now dealing with ED who is different to your daughter...and ED doesn't give a toss about you or your husband....that is really hard to deal with.
You and your husband have to agree ground rules and tactics as to how you deal with it....shouting doesn't work.
Get professional help soon including a nutritionist. Work to a meal plan. Get a good therapist who understands ED. You need to try and find the cause.
Make sure you nag your GP. Make sure your GP is sympathetic. Get referred ASAP there are long waiting lists on NHS ( we had BUPA who eventually helped..).
Read lots but be prepared to disregard some info apply what you need for your child.
Avoid films on You Tube....really depressing.
Keep an eye on exercise limits....Juniper started rowing and marathon inning training. I was delighted until I learned she had anorexia. All exercise has been stopped on medical advice.
There are parent support groups at some hospitals.
You will find many others in the same boat as you.
Be prepared for the long haul. It's really really hard....you must build a team.
God bless.
Tomagcro