Can I MAKE my 14 year old dd go to summer camp if she doesn't want to?

[Spidermama]

Here's the background.
DH is going away for seven and a half weeks in the summer holidays.
I work mon-fri, 5am until 12pm.
I have four children aged 8, 11, 13 and 14.

I'll need a break. So I've booked a holiday camp for the kids which looks really great. They'd all go to the same camp for one week.

The problem is that my 14 year old DD says she won't go. She's insisting. She points out, quite correctly, that I can't drag her out of the house.

She's very shy. Actually I know this would be great for her and I think it's just what she needs: A week doing kayaking, canoeing, zip wiring, crafts, archery, camping etc etc etc. It would be a great chance for her to leave the lip gloss and straighteners at home and just BE!

But she won't. And I've paid the deposit.

Having a week to myself is the only thing that's keeping me going and I won't cope without it.

What would you do?

Has your DH talked to her about it as well? Would that make any difference?

She is probably even less likely to cooperate for him to be honest.

If you can, I would make her go. she will probably enjoy it more than she thinks. you could frame it as " I need you to do this so I can manage the rest of the summer. I understand that it is not your preferred option, but this is how it is this year. If you really dont enjoy it then I will arrange something different next year" She is old enough to start learning that sometimes she has to make compromises! Good luck - my 17 yr old DS is supposed to be doing a course this summer and not keen. Just pondering how I can persuade him if he turns around and says he is not going....