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Teenage son with teddy bear?

29 replies

bernie29483 · 08/03/2013 23:19

Hi. Bit of a dilemma! Basically I was in my 18 year old sons room today. Noticed that his bed was made but there seemed to be something under the cover. Anyway I looked and found that he had his teddy bear hidden there! Its the second time I found it in his bed in as many weeks! Its odd because, although he has had it since he was little, he didn't really sleep with one as a young child so not sure why its there now. I'm not sure whether to talk to him about it privately or assume its just a phase and ignore it. Its his toy after all. Any ideas? Thanks x

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Verycold · 08/03/2013 23:19

I am baffled. Why do you feel it is an issue??

SueDunome · 08/03/2013 23:21

Teenage girls like teddies. Could he be bringing a gf home?

EmmaDale · 08/03/2013 23:21

I would leave it. Don't speak to him, it'll embarrass him and I don't honestly see a problem with him having a bear, particularly one that he has had since he was v small.

ZZZenAgain · 08/03/2013 23:25

it is a bit strange if he never slept with it before but I don't think it is anything to worry about. Wonder why he is doing it now though at 18

sittinginthesun · 08/03/2013 23:28

Leave him, it sounds perfectly fine to me. Provided he is happy generally .

mumeeee · 08/03/2013 23:35

There is nothing wrong with havinga teddy bear at 18, DD1 is almost 26 and she still has one and so does her DH,both Teddies sit in thier bedroom. Why arre you going into an 18 year oLd's bedroom anyway?

waycat · 09/03/2013 06:22

My DS2 (17) still sleeps with his "snuggy", a baby's shawl that my mum bought for him when he was born.

The "snuggy" has travelled the world with us on family holidays, and although DS2 doesn't like to broadcast it from the rooftops, we all know he wouldn't want to give up his "snuggy" for anything!

Personally, I think it's rather endearing for a 17 year old to be still so attached to something that is little more than a tatty rag now after all these years and numerous washes!

ssd · 09/03/2013 09:21

think yourself lucky that's all he's got in there

coffeeismywine · 09/03/2013 09:23

What SSD said Grin

Flojobunny · 09/03/2013 09:26

Ignore, it might be bringing him comfort in some other way Grin

MoreBeta · 09/03/2013 09:47

Sounds perfectly normal to me.

Do you not remember the famous teddy in Brideshead Revisited here and here and here and most famously here.

I first clapped eyes on my DW stood in that exact spot in that last photo - although I didnt have my teddy at the time. Grin

mindgone · 09/03/2013 11:36

I guess it's a comfort thing, is he going through a difficult time right now? I would have a general chat about life to try to find out if he has any particular worries.

Lilymaid · 09/03/2013 11:42

Both my DSs have always loved the satin at the end of their baby blankets. DS2 (21) will still keep it close when he is at home (but doesn't take anything like that to university). He bought a lovely toy elephant when he was on an adventure trip a few years ago which sits on his bed at home. Would you be so concerned if it had been a DD rather than a DS?

CardinalRichelieu · 09/03/2013 11:43

Morebeta I was about to make reference to Sebastian. Also - the pelican sundial! Good times (excellent college)

I don't think the teddy is a problem. I've got mine here. I wouldn't have had it in my bed when I was 15 but by the time you get to 18 you care a bit less about whether something is 'not cool'

HerbyVore · 09/03/2013 11:48

My brother still has his childhood bear in his bedroom. He's 50 and married with children.

As others have said, I would be delighted to ONLY find that item of concern in a teenage boy's bedroom.

Theas18 · 09/03/2013 11:53

Uh.... An his teddy is worrying you why?

My 17yr old has several stuffed toys in his pit bed. THe eldest takes Nanna dog to uni. I think piglet will go to uni- if he's not disintegrated by then!

MoreBeta · 09/03/2013 11:59

Cardinal - are you a Corpuscle then?

CardinalRichelieu · 09/03/2013 13:26

I am. I don't know what the secret sign is though... Sad

olivertheoctopus · 09/03/2013 13:31

So what? It's not as if he's taking it out with him so who cares?

elfycat · 09/03/2013 13:41

I only gave my comforter up when I was 40, it helped me through exams, relationship issues, bereavements etc.

My family tried to talk me out of it non-stop from my teenage years. I kept pointing out there are worse ways of unwinding.

I wouldn't raise it and just pop poor teddy back.

MuchBrighterNow · 09/03/2013 16:57

Maybe he's hidden his dope in it Grin

lljkk · 09/03/2013 19:48
orangeandlemons · 10/03/2013 21:07

My ds 19 still has his doggy. It is in pride of place in his shared house. All his uni mates have theirs too

auntpetunia · 12/03/2013 21:52

My DH 50 has a panda his gran bought him when he was born, it's on the shelf in our bedroom along with my lovely large cuddly bear that I got aged 2. My ds 14 is currently sharing his bed with dipsy! And he doesn't hide him when friends come round. I wouldn't have a problem if he was 18 and still had dipsy .

GreatUncleEddie · 13/03/2013 17:34

Where has the OP gone?