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Friends for my lovely dd

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thornrose · 04/02/2013 14:36

I may regret this bit I'm going to do it anyway. My dd is 13 and has just started high school. To cut a long story short all her friends dumped her Sad
She has AS which makes it hard for her to make friends, but with the right girl she can be a great friend and the AS is barely noticeable.
We are in West Sussex and I wondered if there are any parents of dd's who are a bit lonely and looking for new friends.
Please don't flame me, if you don't like what I am doing I'd rather you just didn't post! There are many mums on here looking for friends, why not our dd's?

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thornrose · 04/02/2013 14:37

Horrible grammar, I'm obviously not looking for parents of lonely girls Blush

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breadandhoney · 04/02/2013 14:37

Bless you. Hope your dd finds a companion soon. She is lucky to have such a caring mum.

AmandaPayne · 04/02/2013 14:39

Can't help, but I think what you are doing is lovely, so I'll keep you bumped for active condos!

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thornrose · 04/02/2013 14:41

Oh god, thanks,I was scared I came across as a complete weirdo!

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AmandaPayne · 04/02/2013 14:42

And convos obviously. Bloody spell check.

Sparklingbrook · 04/02/2013 14:45

Thorn what a lovely thing to do. I have a 13 year old DS, but nowhere near you. Sad

He had problems after starting high school with friendships and other stuff. he moved schools in the end.

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thornrose · 04/02/2013 14:46

Sparkling this was triggered by a solitary weekend and the usual horrendous Monday morning, she is just so lonely bless her heart.

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Sparklingbrook · 04/02/2013 14:50

DS isn't very good with his communication skills, hates using the phone and actually speaking to people. He still wants me to ring the friend's parents and organise stuff. He is getting slightly better, but it is horrible to see.

Does she do any after school stuff?

starsandunicorns · 04/02/2013 14:51

Oh thornrose my heart goes out to you you sound fab i cant help you but hope someone will :) ( wish my mum had done somthing simlar instead of saying you dont need friends) is there any local clubs that she could join near by she old enough to do sea scouts etc

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thornrose · 04/02/2013 14:55

She goes to singing lessons and guides at the moment. She had a nice little group of friends who had sleepovers and stuff (always at mine admittedly) but she just became too needy for them at school. Mainly due to the shock of transition from middle school!
I've seen her at home with friends and its completely different to how she is at school.

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thornrose · 04/02/2013 14:57

Stars, she is crying out for friends and it breaks my heart. She is such fun and very loyal, she just needs a chance.

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starsandunicorns · 04/02/2013 15:14

Oh bless her heart please check out the sea air army cadets as they will give her self estem ( sp) and working in a team etc i used to voluter ( sp) at army cadets and it is good fun for all it will build her up as a female instrustor i used to do the weekends away and the older ones would always inculde the younger newer ones. Middle school to high school is a hard transtion i didnt do it but family members did and found it hard

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thornrose · 04/02/2013 16:56

I'll have a look stars, thanks.

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thornrose · 04/02/2013 19:17

Sorry to bump.....

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musicposy · 09/02/2013 22:11

We may be able to help. :)

My DD is 13, home educated as was never a good fit for school (came out of school at 8). We have long suspected she is borderline aspergers. Have talked with her lots of times about getting a dx but she feels happy without at the moment, worrying that a "label" will make people treat her differently.

She has some lovely home ed friends now -she's at a sleepover tonight for a friend's 13th birthday - but I've had a lot of the same worries as you over the years. And I know she would still struggle socially if she were in school.

We are in West Sussex :)

Only thing I would say, she's not a very typical 13 year old girl if that makes sense! I think she's emotionally quite young for her age. She likes computer games (current obsession Skylanders), maths, science, things she can order and make sense of. I don't know if you are looking for a more typical 13 year old girl! Like your DD she has singing lessons. She's into music and drama too and goes to dance and theatre classes.

She has a couple of friends she writes to. She says she knows this is very old-fashioned as those same friends are on facebook with her but it's something she seems to enjoy and she likes getting letters through the post! Maybe they would like to write at first and see how they get on. PM me if you are interested.

musicposy · 09/02/2013 22:13

I suspect you are further east than us if you are in a part of W Sussex where high school transition is at 13 - but only by about 20 miles :)

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