aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhgggggggg!!!! [ a dead chick too far]

[brighterfuture]

Ds1 17 is having a massive dope comedown, depression , hormonal teen. Dh has escaped with dd to find some normality. House is a total tip because I have been working all day and noone has cleared up. I also am a messy tip because I've been working outside in a dirty environment.....

Final straw 2 very well turned out mums with their 2 Ds's just arrived to drop them off for a 2 day stay with my ds214. I do vaguely remember him asking me if his friends could come over in the holidays but my brain is so full of other things I pushed it aside. I am sure I never agreed to 2 days.... As I am making polite conversation with immaculate mummys I notice dead chick dd8 has left on the kitchen table

I should have said no but ds 2 has had such a crap time lately because of his brother's behaviour and its rare for him to invite friends. We also live quite remotely so they'd driven a fair way.

Am now defrosting burgers, hoping Ds 1 will not explode again, and can keep it under control and wondering

a) how I can keep our dysfunctional mayhem under control for the next 2 days without collapsing from the stress of it all
b) How do other families retain normality for their dc when one sibling has really challenging behaviour
c)what the fuck am i going to feed them all.....

Yay! Good stuff.

Op should not have needed to PM you couthy.

Word that was a harsh post too.

Maybe another apology could be in order?

The OP made a comment she didn't understand would offend.

As soon as she was pulled up on it she made aproper apology. Then she asked couthy not to continue given the state she was in anyway.

But couthy went on and on and on...until OP abandoned the thread feeling she had to apologise.

Quite ridiculous!

This thread to be fair to the op has been as much use as a chocolate fireguard!

Yes.

Utterly derailed by me-me-me-ism!

Just drop it wordfsctory, now it's you hijacking the thread.

Brighter, how are you doing? Hope things are calming down at home. It really gets in my nerves When somebody is due to visit but once they are home I really enjoy having people around. Hope you are having a quiet evening.

I hope the other boys carried on being a good distraction for ds1 too.

I'm leaving this thread now. The OP and I have cleared up any misunderstandings, and I am not in the right frame of mind myself to hang around for other people to tell me how and what I should be feeling.

I was looking on teenagers because I have issues myself, came across this thread and felt that I could try to offer a personal story of the fact that even very heavy dope smokers often quit or cut down a lot on their early 20's.

The other stuff is an aside, and I'm not in the right frame of mind myself to argue with people.

I hope the OP gets the help she is looking for.

I'm out.

Fair enough couthy, it's been a weird thread this.

Glad you and op are all fine though.

I think its actually more peaceful in my house full of teens than on this thread!

Thanks for the advice and kind words everyone who gave them. I hope the perfect teens are snug in bed with their teeth brushed {hwink]

at least it was a distraction!!

Good god, yet another thread where Op is probably regretting ever posting, having been accused of offending people with epilepsy which she has apologised for several times and having Mrs"my husbands job is more important than my children" banging on about her perfect life!
No advise OP but I really hope things pick up for you soon, ds is 13 and UP TO NOW seems to show no interest in drugs but the worry is always there in the back of my mind. I don't think anyone is in a position to say their child would never touch them.

I expect Tuttut's approach would solve all sorts of teen related problems.

My children would never attempt suicide because they know if they kill themselves we'll throw them out...

My children would never develop autism because they know that we'd throw them out...

My children would never become anorexic...

Surely if a child is taking drugs at 12, that is a sign that he is already a troubled child, not a slightly naughty child who would fall in line with a little ordinary discipline?