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It's DS's 14th birthday today

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Snorbs · 22/09/2012 12:54

I already knew he was planning to spend most of the day with his mates which I was ok with. He'll be back in time for a birthday dinner and then our traditional Saturday night watching of Doctor Who.

But but but... He arranged to go to town with a girl. A girl. She came here and I chatted with her for a bit while he was getting changed from his football training kit. She seems really very nice. I'm not sure if this is like a proper date (they'll be meeting up with some other people in town) or what, but...

My little boy. And a girl. For the first time. And on his birthday.

WTF just happened?

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OrangeImperialGoldBlether · 22/09/2012 13:25

He got lucky, is what happened!

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Snorbs · 22/09/2012 14:18

True. It's all just so sudden!

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Sparklingbrook · 22/09/2012 14:22

A girl. Shock DS1 is 13 and likes the idea of having a girlfriend very much, but no actual girls have ever been here. Shock

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Snorbs · 22/09/2012 14:22

And can I just say that she got lucky too!

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cornzy · 22/09/2012 14:30

aw bless. Did he have a bath?

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Snorbs · 22/09/2012 14:50

No. But he's just sent a text saying he's bringing her back here! Holy shit! What do I do? Arrghh!!!

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Goofus · 22/09/2012 14:53

Oh no! So little time to prepare! Grin

It's actually great though, and says a lot about you and your son that he wants to bring her home. So many teens would not want to do that- certainly not so soon. Enjoy! She sounds like she might be lovely. Smile

LongTimeLurking · 22/09/2012 14:55

Set out an extra place at the dinner table..... feel pleased with yourself for having such a good relationship with your DS that he feels comfortable to bring his "girlfriend" home for dinner and isn't out shagging on a park bench somewhere...

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Snorbs · 22/09/2012 15:03

Shagging on a park bench?!? >swoon

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Sparklingbrook · 22/09/2012 15:25

Don't say anything stupid. Grin Have you got to produce food? Is she a vegetarian/vegan/macrobiotic? Shock

chocoluvva · 22/09/2012 16:05

It'll be fine. These days they bring their girlfriend/boyfriend home for dinner. He won't be "shagging on a park bench". In a few weeks he'll have a different girlfriend though.....
(This is all very well for me to say - I was deeply shocked when DD started going out with a (lovely) boy on her 14th birthday) :o

Shesparkles · 22/09/2012 16:06

I'm so glad I'm not the only mum who craps herself more at the thought of my child bringing home a boyfriend home more than I ever did at taking my own boyfriends home! Grin

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Snorbs · 22/09/2012 16:17

Luckily no food - they went straight back out again and now she's gone home.

DS appears unruffled and spectacularly noncommittal about anything that happened while they were out or what might happen with her in the future. Same as usual with him these days TBH. He seems in a pretty good mood though.

Blimey. I wasn't expecting all this.

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PatriciaHolm · 22/09/2012 19:24

Aww. Both my ILs and BIL are happily married to people they started to go out with at 14!

crazynanna · 22/09/2012 19:30

Awww Smile

DD not long turned 14...but not that bothered in lads atm grateful

She said she thinks some lad likes her,though. When I asked how she knew,she said she keeps catching him looking at her,and he threw a crab apple at her at the bus stop Confused Modern love?

SecretSquirrels · 23/09/2012 14:05

He will now spend every waking moment texting her.
Prepare yourself for The Talk. Have tissues ready for The End.

BackforGood · 23/09/2012 14:21

Worries.
dd is 14 soon.
dd went away for weekend camp yesterday, and A BOY started chatting to her and then they sat together on the coach. I do not know who this boy is.

Should I be as worried as you Snorbs ?

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Snorbs · 24/09/2012 09:34

He spends pretty much all his time glued to his phone anyway. I have been gearing myself up for The Talk anyway. It's not easy though. With DD, she'll happily talk about anything and everything with me. DS has always been much more of a closed book Sad

BackforGood, DS apparently met this girl when he was away for a week over the summer holidays at the Scouts Jamboree. Which has now got me wondering exactly what they got up to there(!) I doubt they got the opportunity to get too carried away (a couple of thousand scouts in a big field is going to limit options, surely) but you can't help but speculate.

This is horrible. On the one hand my laddish tendencies are thinking "Wahey! Well done my son!" and feeling excited for him. On the other I'm worried that he'll get his heart broken. And on the third, I'm sad that we've already got to the point where there's this whole aspect of his life that he doesn't feel he can talk to me about.

You never think about all this when you decide "Hey, let's have a baby!" do you?

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chocoluvva · 24/09/2012 12:42

Oh Snorbs, it's so difficult isn't it?
I know what you mean about having mixed feelings.
However, you probably don't need to worry about them getting up to mischief (yet..!) and it probably won't last very long.
In this area, it seems that from 13-14 they have several, short-lived GFs or BFs. They don't tend to have 'proper' GFs till they're 15.
(Don't know if that's any help.....)

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