I am very tired. Please help me exlaine to DS why I do not owe him £13.

[LynetteScavo]

He bought CoD black ops certifiacate 18, online. He is 13. (From ebay; he set up an account, but that's a whole 'nother issue I have to deal with!)

I have swiftly removed the game. He was previously told if he ever bought the game into this house I would shred it. He accepted me taking it off him, but now wants the £13 it cost him. Apparently I owe it to him.

I am so tired I can't think of any answer except "No".

[vodkaanddietirnbru]

Natwest does a child account with a debit card

[ihearsounds]

Natwest have debit card accounts for 13 year olds.. Although try telling shops this is the case when you phone dc up on way home from school to pop into supermarket and use their card to get bread and milk lol.

As for op, give ds the number for childline. Let him phone them if he thinks you are abusing him. I did this when one of my dc did similar and said one saturday morning they were going to tell teacher on monday that I abused her. Told her she didn't have to wait, here's childlines number and there's the phone. She just went into her room in a strop to moan some more to herself.

[amck5700]

My boys have an RBS Revolve account - it gives a cash card from age 11. They get their pocket money paid straight in and they use them for their own shopping :)

[LynetteScavo]

Yes, it's a Natwest account. His account used to be linked to mine, so I could see exactly what was going in and out.Once his card was activated, it became a completely separate account.

The card was activated one afternoon. By 7am the next morning parcels started arriving on the doorstep. I'm really glad he didn't have much money in the account. I don't think he can have any left now.

I thought 13 would be a good age for a card like this, but with hindsight it's not working for us.

[seeker]

Where did the money come from?

[SecretNutellaFix]

what is his attitude like this evening?

[LynetteScavo]

It was his pocket money. We give him a certain amount each week so he can learn to manage money. It also gives me something to use as a consequence. If he gets an after school detention, for example, and I have to do a 26m round trip to collect him instead of him getting the bus, his pocket money is less. He also has to use the money to top up his phone/buy a new one if he loses his. At the moment if he lost his phone, he wouldn't be able to buy a new one. Mwahahaha! This could be a long slow learning process.

[discrete]

Can't you send it back for a refund?

Tell the vendor that they sold it to a minor, they should be willing to refund I should think.

Not that I would give him the 13 pounds back anyway

In our house we have a saying 'stupidity costs. live with it.'

[LynetteScavo]

He is exhausted, I am exhausted. We have avoided each other this evening. DH has only just come in, and I couldn't face dealing with anymore attitude on my own. I did insist he stay at the table until we had all finished diner, and put his dirty plate in the dishwasher, which he did. I don't think he wanted a fight either.

[amck5700]

This could be a long slow learning process.

Exactly!! - but he will learn and good on you for trying to raise him to have financial responsibility.

He'll grump a bit but he wont do it again.

I took 20quid of my then 11 year old for buying bloody doubloons on some pirate game he was playing on his ipod when I specifically told him not to - he didn't do it again!

[IvanaNap]

I can't believe no one has suggested the song 'no charge'

So I thought I would. Enjoy :)

[SecretNutellaFix]

sounds like he has begun to learn already.

[lottiegarbanzo]

When I was six I understood that I was only allowed to spend 5p of my 15p pocket money (or could then have been 2 of 10) on sweets. This proportional approach was strictly enforced throughout childhood (until 13 when I effectively achieved financial independence for pocket money purposes with a newspaper round). Had I bought extra sweets they would have been confiscated. I understood and accepted this, cheating, I think, only once, at about 7.

Tell him he is being more stupid than a six year-old girl.

[LollipopViolet]

Sell the game.

And the console.

And the Nerf guns.

My mum threatened similar numerous times, and it shocked me back into line. Once, I said, "You can't sell xyz, it's MINE!"

Her response?

"I bought it, with my money, so technically, it's mine, I just let you use it."

Worked on me, I never said it again!

[samonly]

You are right and he is a minor. End of. And do remove internet availability for a bit while you still can (mine has a remarkable ability to find other peoples' unsecured networks). But really do sympathise with the tired thing. My DS has stopped this kind of stuff, just to have DD start up with the "nothing to wear" business.

[DontmindifIdo]

Please, please, please, keep the game somewhere safe. Present it to him on his 18th birthday.