Think my 15yo ds is gay and having sex

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He is very close to a lad who is a year older. I've posted more elsewhere but not sure anyone reads that thread.

He has changed (for the better) since J had been around. They seemed very intense last night. This morning I found poo tinged sex stains on his sheet.

I have no problem with him being gay or bum sex for that matter, but I am worried that he is too young. The fact that he has not told us that he is gay yet makes me think he is not ready to be penetrated, even if J is a lovely lad. I'm worried that he is going further than he is ready for, to keep in with J or maybe under presure from him.

How do I raise the subject when I cannot be really certain that he is gay. Dd might know as they are very close, but I don't think she would tell me even if she knew. Dh is useless, immediately in denial the moment I raised the possibility. Says it is just a bromance, but do bromances include anal sex?

Should I just ask outright or wait for him to say?

Well done, it sounds like you've managed to have a good discussion there and opened the door for him to talk about these things as and when he feels the need (or when you do!)

Girls nearly always go for boys a year or two above in school, maybe because they are emotionally a little more ready for relationships, or because they just don't tend to fancy the ones in their own classes, so he may get opportunities in another year or two to find out whether he finds girls interesting in that way. But he may just fall for certain people rather than it being much about gender.