My daughter has run away

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I'm going out of my mind, we have had ongoing arguments with my 14 y/o dd regarding Facebook and we discovered last night she was still on Facebook even after we shut down her account.
She has been posting sexual pictures and talking dirty to 16/17 yr old boys
There was a big argument, and this morning she was gone.
We have spoken to police, and from FB chat, we know she was with an older boy last night at 12:19am, but no idea where she is now
The police are looking, my DH and ds1 are out looking but I have to stay in case she comes back and I am do scared, I don't know what to do.

kal I'm so sorry

Op glad she is back and don't blame yourself for not connecting the 2 the obvious first thought is that's teenagers. Glad you've properly talked. Does she appreciate how worried you have been? At 32 and with 2dcs I finally want to apologise to mum for evrything I put her through. And I was a good girl!

So glad she's back. Don't beat yourself up about what and why, the whole family is affected and quite often you don't realise until much later. If she wasn't ready for counselling hten, it is quite possible that pushing her to go would simply have alienated her anyway. She's ready for it now, and that's what matters. It'll be fairly stormy for a while, but I'm sure you know that.

I wouldn't be surprised to hear that you could do with an objective person to have a chat to too. Don't forget to look after yourself. Just because you're a grown up, doesn't make it easy.

Kal :(

Is she ok though? How terrible for you

oops, went off to bed. After weeks of trouble etc she went to live with inlaws (there she got to be an only child of wealthy parents ) We had no contact at all for 3 years (her choice) and then we met up. She is now 20. We've been meeting since she was 17 roughly once a month (she is at university 200 miles away) and we have a good relationship. She tells me things she doesnt tell MIL and always phones me first (and that makes me happy) but those 3 years were pretty awful.
Its such a difficult age (and we had a newborn with severe brain damage which led to neglect emotionally of the others) and I agree with others that someone objective for her to talk too would help. Problem is persuading them!

Oh phew !