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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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My daughter has run away

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tantrumsandballoons · 16/03/2012 07:38

I'm going out of my mind, we have had ongoing arguments with my 14 y/o dd regarding Facebook and we discovered last night she was still on Facebook even after we shut down her account.
She has been posting sexual pictures and talking dirty to 16/17 yr old boys
There was a big argument, and this morning she was gone.
We have spoken to police, and from FB chat, we know she was with an older boy last night at 12:19am, but no idea where she is now
The police are looking, my DH and ds1 are out looking but I have to stay in case she comes back and I am do scared, I don't know what to do.

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Kellywestie · 16/03/2012 15:56

So glad you have found her safe. Thanks for letting us know.

Maryz · 16/03/2012 16:06

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Vicky2011 · 16/03/2012 16:23

Wonderful news!

empirestateofmind · 16/03/2012 16:40

Great news! It will be a rollercoaster of a weekend as you talk it all through and she realises how worried you were. I hope it goes well and you become a stronger family for it. DD2 went missing for a few hours recently and they were the longest of my life. Thinking of you all.

QOD · 16/03/2012 17:00

Phew

Fuzzywood · 16/03/2012 17:05

Oh thank goodness x

pharaohmum · 16/03/2012 17:40

so pleased ot hear she's back :)

MsF1t · 16/03/2012 17:42

Brilliant news. What are you going to do now?

(No need to respond to that, OP, really- I imagine you've enough on, but I know I'm probably not alone in wondering, and in wishing you all the best with getting things back on track.)

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tantrumsandballoons · 16/03/2012 18:04

We have had a chat, she is really upset and emotional at the moment.

We talked a bit about getting some counseling as I think she needs someone outside the family to talk to as well

We lost her grandad last year and it hit her incredibly hard, thinking back most of this behaviour started when he was ill
. Tbh I feel a bit stupid to have not put that together until now.

But we will get through it and thank you all do much for your advice and support, I really appreciate everyone's kindness.

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wheredidiputit · 16/03/2012 18:53

Glad she safe and back home with your family.

Does her school have anyone who is a family worker/counsellor, if not they may be able to point you in the right direction.

Hassled · 16/03/2012 19:04

Oh phew - have been thinking about you all day.

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tantrumsandballoons · 16/03/2012 19:07

Yes, the school has a counsellor who comes in once a week, she is going to see her on wednesday and then we will go from there

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JugglingWithTangentialOranges · 16/03/2012 19:07

Glad to read your last post too tantrums - that all sounds really good stuff

surroundedbyblondes · 16/03/2012 19:12

So glad she is home safe.

takeonboard · 16/03/2012 19:22

Phew, so pleased she is safe.
I'm sure you will be able to get her back on track

BuckBuckMcFate · 16/03/2012 19:23

So glad to hear she's home

Kbear · 16/03/2012 19:24

what a relief. Glad she's home safe.

MsF1t · 16/03/2012 20:37

Well, I'm really glad you've been able to talk and work out where it's coming from rather than blow up at her- not matter how much you may have wanted to! I imagine she's quite pleasantly surprised and hopefully will start to meet you half way now that you have listened to her.

I ran away myself, a lot at the same age. Finally left home at 15. I don't think, in the scheme of things, it did me much good in life. If my parents had been able to react like you have, things might have been different. Who knows? Anyway, just want to say well done and good luck with it.

ChippingInNeedsCoffee · 16/03/2012 20:46

I'm so pleased to hear she's home - safe & sound. I lost my Grandad at that age too, it turned my world upside down :( Thankfully in those days, things like FB weren't around - it has a lot to answer for. Best of luck x

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tantrumsandballoons · 16/03/2012 21:14

Thanks everyone

She was so close to grandad but was so adamant at the time she didn't want to speak to a counsellor and I didn't want to push her into it at the time, probably a mistake.
She said she would find it helpful to speak to someone now so fingers crossed

She is asleep with her head in my lap at the moment, I really need a wee but I dont want to move her

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Clownsarescary · 16/03/2012 21:16

So pleased for dd is home safely, that must have been an awful worry and strain on you.

Hope dd can get her issues sorted. It's lovely to hear she's lying asleep with her head on your lap, you're obviously close. :)

KalSkirata · 16/03/2012 21:23

so pleased she is back. I had the same experience when my dd was 14. Sadly she never came back. Pleased she is home and asleep on you. Its such a difficult age.

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tantrumsandballoons · 16/03/2012 21:30

KalSkirata I'm so sorry to hear that.
My heart goes out to you

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usualsuspect · 16/03/2012 21:33

Glad shes back, just to say my DD was a nightmare at 14 but shes lovely now , hang on in there and just keep talking.

gingeroots · 16/03/2012 21:52

Oh KalSkirata ,I'm so ,so sorry .

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