Ds1 having LOUD sex and I have had to tell them to shut up...

[lilibet]

Honestly!! I love my ds1 very much but there is no 18 year old boy born who could make a girl shriek like that.

She is from the Meg Ryan school of sex noises but AMPLIFIED

I also can't beleive the brass neck of her - she faced us all afterwards without even a blush.

It's not the first time either, we weren't in a while back and dd (23) and ds2 (15) could hear her down stairs. Ds2 went and banked on the door and said "Do you mind, some of us are trying to revise" God Bless Him!!

I had a word with them then but it's not stopped them, they now can't be in his room with the door closed.

They don't prepare you for conversations like this at antenatal classes

[lilmamma]

I think its an age thing,i was woken the other night with the headboard going,god help next door as it was banging on their wall,but saying that they are just as bad.it was my dd and her boyfriend,i was mortified,but they are both 18 and i supose its only natural..

Next morning i said to them,hope the headbard is still in one piece and walked out,they both looked at me with :O espressions :)

[nizlopi]

Seems like a waste to make sex noises without having sex.

[teapot5]

I LOVE this thread. We are going through a really shxx time at the moment with DD1 (17) seriously wanting to move out (SS, CAMHS, GP - you name it - everybody involved now) and DD2 is hurt, upset, blaming us and thus playing up big time. It's all very upsetting and sad.

Anyway this thread makes me laugh. Thank you!!

[flow4]

Lilibet, it sounds like you (and your other kids) are handling a tricky situation well enough. :)

Like you say, there is no preparation for these things... I walked in on a half-naked stranger/girl in my bathroom a fortnight ago. I backed out, and when she came out and introduced herself, the best I could manage was "Pleased to meet you, Amy". When my half-naked son followed, all I could think of saying to him was "Is she 16 and have you got condoms?"

You just have to improvise best you can, dontcha?!

As for those of you taking the "has she no shame?" line here, I'd say "NO, and GOOD for her"! Why would you want her - or them - to have shame, fgs? You want them to have a bit more consideration, that's all - not shame!

Btw, she may not be faking it OP. I was lucky enough to enjoy sex as a teen, and I definitely remember being shushed by my embarrassed boyfriend in his bed. It was very, very difficult to be quiet, and it took me a while to learn... If you're respectful towards her, as my boyfriend's mum was towards me, she'll try to return the favour :)

[mathanxiety]

'I don't have to worry about this.
No self-respecting girl would ever go into ds1's room.'

As this thread shows, it's the ones with no self respect you need to worry about, Maryz.

OP, when you gave your DS permission to have sex under your roof you lost this game. They need to get a room of their own and pay for it. Motels are reasonably sound proofed. Having to wait until you have a bed in a bedroom you rent to do your courting in is a really good way to motivate older teens. The DCs' sex life is none of my business and conducting it elsewhere keeps it that way.

[DaSmallPunsMum]

Why not just speak to her about it woman to woman, that would surely be more embarrassing and freak her out enough to stop.

[DaSmallPunsMum]

@mathanxiety I disagree, it makes no sense to teach your sons or daughters that sex is something unnatural or 'rude' enough that they have to do it in some seedy motel or send a weird message by it being ok to do at their girlfriend or boyfriends house but not at yours. It's just about communicating about noise and about not doing it if anyone is in.

[DaSmallPunsMum]

I disagree with MarthaAnxiety, it makes no sense to teach your sons or daughters that sex is something unnatural or 'rude' enough that they have to do it in some seedy motel or send a weird message by it being ok to do at their girlfriend or boyfriends house but not at yours. It's just about communicating about noise and about not doing it if anyone is in.