My ds1 is coming up to 18. He used to be a lovely boy. Always loving, good sense of humour, quite bright although hopefully disorganised and always late. He did a year of a levels at sixth form, absolutely hated it and left after a year. He has just started a btech at a different college. I really supported him and helped him find something new.
Ds2 is a year younger and has just started college. He is not to keen but that is another story. He has worked on a mates site all summer labouring and earning money so is reluctant to stop, although it would only last a couple of months.
Ds 1 and ds2 now attend the same college and need to get the bus at the same time. Ds1 takes ages in the shower and makes everyone late. He gets in at a certain time and regardless of anyone else, takes his time. He likes to have his coffee first and then get in. Ds 2 gets up jumps in and is out the door. I just asked ds1 to start getting in the shower 10 mins early and as ds2 now needs to get in. Well you woudn't believe the reaction. He went into meltdown, slamming doors shouting ' I hate you you always piss me off. Why should I change my routine '. He went mental and said all f**k off. I just quietly explained with out shouting that he has to think off others and that he gets in first because he is always late anyway and that he has to consider others. He was very aggressive back and already I know he will be an arse in the morning. Dh is away working and I have to get in to work tomorrow. Ds has turned into a horrible selfish person. This is just one example of his aggressiveness and moods. He has absolutely no thought for anyone but himself anymore. I feel like walking out the door and not coming back. He thinks the world owes him a living and I really don't like him anymore he has had me in tears so many times , tho he doesnt know it. I am at my wits end. Sorry to moan so much.