I have just spent 15 mintues scremaing at DS1

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He has, in the 15 mintues since he came home from school
called DS2s friend a
fat twat
a fat bastard
a fat git
he has thrown a toy box full of toys at him, he walloped his brother over the head with a x-box remote, he has shouted and yelled and sworn at his brother nad brothers friend. the firned is now crying, wnats to go home, DS2 is crying because his friend wants to go home and DS1 is stil arguing,with us all whilst eating 8 slices of bread and jam.

I.Have.had.Enough!

How old is he?

how old are they all?

13, he's only been a teenager a few months (see my other thread)

Ds2 and his friend are both 11. They wind each other up constantly and also DS1 thinks he's john bloody cena and tries to do wwe wrestling with any of DS2s friends who happen to come in the house

Will he go to his room to calm down?

well the wrestling needs nipping in the bud asap!! thats going to drive ds2 friends away for sure

Ah yes - lovely age........

The awful behaviour is due to hunger probably. I used to leave large quantities of stodge for mine to be consumed the minute they got through the door. At 13 through to about 17 mine had large amounts of bread/pasta/potatoes immediately on entering the house at about 4.30.

Then dinner at about 6.30

Then supper at about 10.00

And still complained incessantly that there was "never any food" or "nothing to eat".

However, the behaviour is unacceptable and you have to decide on, and implement sanctions. I would suggest removal of xbox/remote/phone/computer/bedroom door /pocket money/lifts to anywhere(any or all of these) to be earned back by good behaviour.

Be consistant and start now, you have to stick to your guns for at least the next 4 or 5 years.

Yes agree with 3little frogs.
The trouble is that little boys love to play fight and wrestle and they've probably always done it.. Sadly he is now too old for that and can easily hurt someone younger.You must be clear that now he is so much bigger he is not allowed to playfight again.
And enforce it.
He will get hungrier and hungrier.
Then he will outgrow his shoes every two weeks.
DS1 at 12/13 would have bread or toast after school, a huge cooked meal at 6.30pm and by 8pm he would be starving and munching on bowls of cereal.

The x-box was taken away from them both on Sunday because of the incessant bickering (why do they never bore of winding each other up)

He's always had a huge appetite, he'll eat cereal, bread, toast, bananas etc for a god 1/2 hour non stop as soon as he gets home from school, then eat his dinner plus seconds at 5.30

god yes,i second that about food!!

You know those zoo programmes where they feature elephants and they always give a long list of what an elephant eats each day? Well my 13 year old son could almost equal that...

My son has terrible anger issues and having enough food in the house is always the first line in defence re his moods