DD is throwing up

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my 15 year old daughter has just told me she has being making herself sick since dec,she is not overweight and is very easy going, im shocked to the core and dont know what to do, someone please help me.....

I think you should make an apt with your Gp to start with.

i did suggest this but she feels like its making a bigger deal of it than it is,
but thanks i think im gona go ahead and make an apt

We didn't quite get that far with DD but she was restricting food intake. Our GP suggested speaking to her on her own, which worked well. DD was 14 at the time.

show her how awful other girls get when they do this to themselves google it and take her to the GP for a referal to CAMHS as soon as possible how scary but with help she will be fine good luck

Had this experience briefly with DD2 a few years ago. Thankfully the vomiting stage passed quickly but the eating disorder and self image problems have take a LOT longer to subside (note I say subside not resolve...)

I would go to the GP with your daughter if she is willing. There is next to nothing you can do if she isn't as sadly GPs are limited unless a child is a dangerously low weight. My DD was referred to CAHMS and saw a dietitian but I have to say I felt it did more harm than good.. focussing on food and not on the underlying issues.. self image, esteem etc etc I too would have described my DD as a happy lively easy going person.... but underneath she struggles massively .

Help is good. However please don't despair.. sometimes it IS a phase or sometimes you can work together to help her reduce the behaviour. The fact that your daughter has TOLD you is GREAT... really great because she is asking for help. My DD didn't..got thinner and sicker before we realised.

I recommend looking online at ED support..there is a LOT out there and even if it seems 'my child isn't that bad/thin/ill' there is a lot of shared experience, and support for yourself is vital because it is so horribly distressing to find that your baby is hurting herself.

My DD is now in a better place food wise... but has struggled with other MH issues. Her older sister is seriously underweight with OCD that has crashed into anorexia due to stress at University so we are starting the path again.. it is truly heartbreaking, BUT I know that with support and understanding she too WILL get through it.

Incidentally I have never had any eating issues, and my sons are as laid back as can be but I still feel so guilty that my daughters have both developed eating disorders... it's NOT our fault....

UnMumsnetty hugs...

thank you so much for ur help and wise words, ive made an apt with our G.P for monday morning at 9.30, im not expecting everything to be fixed but im hoping we are taking the first positive step,
I cant believe i never noticed anything, this i guess is where the real parenting begins!!!