two teens and ASD sibling HELP

[baileyandtinks]

i do understand ive a dd 14 and ds 15 and a ds whos ASD 10 ... but my problem is having two teens who like all teens can be lazy , stroppy, hard going but are loving good kids really and how they react to my DS who has ASD and is 10 they just dont apear to try at all or have any empathy for him what so ever its driving me crazy having to explain (which i know i shouldnt need to) my actions to them concerning DS with ASD, its making the home like a battleground and to top it all DS with ASD is going through a lot of tantrums/meltdowns right now as they do so things are hard enough already

Would a book like this help?

Can you get them in touch with a young carers group near you, there is a website call Yc.net which has forums etc

i have talked to them many many times my DD is ok most of the time with him she has much more patience, but its his older brother , hes in his face 24/7 and idolises him (says he hates him but know this is untrue) he wants to be just like him and copies everything he says and does DS2 says he does understand but when things happen he is so bad tempered with him it always ends in a big fight Ds2 is very inteligent student and i understand his frustration hes 15 and needs his space but hes like a shadow to him and over last year has become very violent towards his older sibling , woe n betide anyone else tho who hurts his little brother hes very protective towards him i just need peace a little would be nice

ty bruffin ill look that up