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Teenagers

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Original poster

is this normal for a teen?

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2shoes · 20/09/2010 10:08

didn't want to hijack other thread.
dd is 15 and disabled.
she has now decided teeth cleaning is a going to be a battle, same with hair being brushed...
as I have to do this for her. it is driving me up the wall.(dam her db for his long unkempt hair)
so what the heck do I do?

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notyummy · 20/09/2010 10:15

Does she has learning difficulties, or is she is physically disabled?

mumblechum · 20/09/2010 11:03

Maybe play the "no one likes people with stinky breath" card?

My ds is a scruff,he only cleans his teeth in the morning, never at night (eew). Sadly when he went to the dentist last week he was told that his teeth are in perfect shape, which didn't help.

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2shoes · 20/09/2010 13:01

no LD'S
I do the smelly breathe thing, does seem to work.

just wondered if any other girls did this(I know boys do)

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GypsyMoth · 20/09/2010 13:08

my dd is 14 and a little like this.....never been interested in fashion/looks etc.

GypsyMoth · 20/09/2010 13:09

is it a sudden,new thing 2shoes?

notyummy · 20/09/2010 13:09

Mmm, well often the issues with girls of this age is taking far too long over their appearance! Yes, I would have thought majoring on the peer expectations of not smelling/looking your best/attractive would have been the way to go.

The only other issue would be depression, as this can effect this aspect of self-interest. Could it be a possibility?

maryz · 20/09/2010 14:19

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toomanytimes · 20/09/2010 19:18

Maryz

Do we share the same DD!!! sounds exceptionally familiar. I like the fact that she rises in the morning looking something out of a horror movie with mascara running and smudged all down her face. Worst still is the stinky hovel she calls her bedroom. I feel sorry for Gregory (teddy bear) not only does he have to put up with the smell but he always seems to have foundation on his T/shirt. There always seem to be empty (or not so empty) cups and plates in the room and if you even saw some floor you will be lucky. I have now taken to shutting the door and hoping the smell does not make its way down the landing and stairs,

dexter73 · 21/09/2010 21:42

From my knowledge of dd and her friends (13 - 14 years old) it doesn't sound that normal. They are always showering and washing their hair. Mind you my dd does do lots of sport nearly every day after school so it could just be because of that.
Also she brushes her teeth without asking. It might just be a phase but I would definitely try to encourage a bit of cleaning!

MaudOHara · 22/09/2010 09:07

I remember doing this for a while around the age of 13 - I don't even know why I did it.

I do know that what snapped me out of it was the boy I fancy calling me "dog breath" so I do think peer pressure may help

Emjxxx · 22/09/2010 17:32

My DD is 13 and she does this!! she puts more slap on top of slap from the day before, her idea of being clean is bathing in body spray, her bedroom is like something out of a horror movie and the smell is just as bad, dirty cups and plates and smelly socks and underwear!! We are at the door shutting and pretending its not there stage! She does bath on the odd occasion that she has somewhere "important" to be!

toomanytimes · 22/09/2010 18:30

Do you know what gets me, is that it is always my fault. Today is PE, no kit to be found anywhere, "I put in the wash" is shouted to me, funny that as I definately did not wash any PE kit. Frogged marched upstairs and emptied wash bin, surprise no PE kit!!. Keys lost, but its my fault that the spare key does not fit the door properly. DD broke my DAB radio with docking station on it, but yes you guessed it, my fault for not buying her own, despite it was plugged in two extension leads with various other things plugged in at the same time. Even playing music too loud is my fault, old system, needs new one. Computer don't work is often met by "what have you done to it"

Tonight it is don't talk to me I am not in the mood!! ask me she is never in the mood unless she wants something.

I think I need to adopt that attitude 24/7

NineTails20 · 23/09/2010 10:23

toomanytimes It's always my fault, too! :) Last week my 11 year old swore that it wasn't her fault she couldn't find her school tracksuit top, why hadn't I washed it? I told her that I had washed it, folded it and put it in her room, after that, it was her responsibility.

Cue massive temper tantrum as she tore her room apart looking for it. She eventually did find it......stuffed down the back of the armchair where she'd left it on Tuesday.

But hey, it was still my fault, right?

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