found alcohol

[rosalita]

Hi,
This is my first post. I found a small empty bottle of alcohol in my 14 year old DD closet. I confronted herand she started crying and told me a friend brought it in. I believe her because I lock up my alcohol and I never drink the type that was found. She has never gave me any problems. How do I stop kids from sneaking stuff into my house aside from frisking them.
Thanks

It's possible, but extremely unlikely IMO that your DD is a completely innocent bystander. I think you have to discuss it further with her.

I know she is not innocent, I just it was brought in by a friend. I am struggling with my 15 DD and am tired and don't want to go through it again.

The old "my friend bought it" line... I used to use that one on my mum too, AND she fell for it.

It is highly likely that she bought it herself. Plenty of smaller off licences don't ask for ID.

I think you need to get her to be honest with you, and I don't think she is being.

she probably isnt being honest but....I no it was taken from a friends parents and brought into my home. I live in canada there is only one store that sells liquor and she couldnt buy it.......regardless....I no she probably drank some and have talked to her.
But my initial question was how do other people keep their kids friends from bringing in alcohol.

You make it so they can only get into the house if YOU open the door. You tell them in a friendly way they can only come in if you check their bags for alcohol.

Your house, your rules. You can't control the big bad world out there but you can control who and what comes into your house.

You tell your dd that there is no moral difference to her letting her friend bring alcohol into the house or buying it herself. If alcohol gets into her house and she doesn't report it to you, she's in the shit: you are not there to parent her friend, but to parent her! Tell her it's entirely up to her how she navigates this socially- if she wants you to frisk her friends you will, if she wants to tell her friend she mustn't do it, that's fine- but she has to come up with a solution.