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Is he using again ?

10 replies

indieray · 10/08/2023 00:32

Partner works away a few nights a week, last night when he was home I saw some texts from a work mate where they were talking about getting a bag ? And my partner specifically said 'il wait til I get home to do a bag' I know someone who will do a sub job'.

He did it for a year a few years ago behind my back and I gave him one last chance as I despise it. He went to cocaine anonymous but I think he did it for me. But now I suspect these messages are telling me he's using again ? Are there any other signs ?
Thanks

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DustyLee123 · 10/08/2023 06:42

Can you see his bank account for cash going out ?

missevolving · 10/08/2023 07:19

I don't think he will show me. Also in the txt messages it said that he owes £££ at the end of the month too x

determinedtomakethiswork · 10/08/2023 07:41

It does sound as though that's what he's doing. Do you share a bank account? You told him he had one last chance and it looks as though he's blown it. What are you going to do?

BritInAus · 10/08/2023 08:03

Having spent 10 years with an addict, 99.9999999% of the times I wondered 'has she been drinking?' I was correct. Trust your gut.

Twiglets1 · 10/08/2023 09:06

indieray · 10/08/2023 00:32

Partner works away a few nights a week, last night when he was home I saw some texts from a work mate where they were talking about getting a bag ? And my partner specifically said 'il wait til I get home to do a bag' I know someone who will do a sub job'.

He did it for a year a few years ago behind my back and I gave him one last chance as I despise it. He went to cocaine anonymous but I think he did it for me. But now I suspect these messages are telling me he's using again ? Are there any other signs ?
Thanks

What else could doing a bag mean?

missevolving · 10/08/2023 11:31

It's over. I can't wait around for him to get the help and to sort himself out. I've tried and tried and tried. And the trust is gone

BritInAus · 10/08/2023 12:09

@missevolving @indieray name change? Well done. No doubt at all you've made the right decision.

missevolving · 18/08/2023 02:32

So jus an update. He swore blind the messages were banter with a male friend in work and he's totally recovered from using cocaine so he feels he can joke about it now. And pointed out to me he even used the words like lol etc
In the txt messages.
I asked him if he had money and he said yes but felt that he didn't need to show me
His bank to prove to me that he has money. I've jus felt uncomfortable ever since and don't wanna be around him.

a222 · 15/01/2024 09:04

sweaty, weird sticky cold sweat
funny taste in his mouth, thirsty
always sniffing back
not eating much
being able to drink more than usual
bits of paper about the size of half your phone torn from leaflets / letters and rolled up to make a ‘snoot’

all the pointers i can give you here, sorry

BelindaOkra · 15/01/2024 21:19

Certainly sounds like it

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