Regular with name change here. Some help and hand-holding needed. My relative is struggling with cocaine addiction and resulting MH issues. Today they crossed a line by asking me for money. Previously they've only asked their parents for money, but their parents are now taking a harder line and refusing to give any more (after clearing £000s of debts before they knew the extent of it). Parents are offering support with them accessing counselling etc and trying to get them to come and stay with them in another town away from the dealers while relative gets themselves together, but help is being turned down. I've told relative I will help with practical things such as helping sort their house, lifts to counselling and someone to talk to if needed, but that I'm not comfortable giving them money.
It's bloody hard though - now I'm worried for their safety if they can't pay back money, or what if the dealer gets them involved in something dodgy to pay off debts. Any advice? I'm starting to think I might have to go NC, much as I want to help them