My dilemma is that now I have teenage children, can I justify not seeing my In-Laws even for a tiny bit Bec I’ve spent 18/20 years spending it with them and them ignoring their grandchildren and also going out of their way to hug and kiss their other grandchildren and give presents. I’m tired of the abuse and that it’s damaged my children to have to accept this but DH keeps saying to rise above it but I think Fuck off and go by yourself then but don’t dare make the children go. Either way it will spoil our precious day. In-Laws don’t even like Christmas and never celebrated it but insist we come so I can’t be with my family who always celebrated it