how much of a faux pas is it to wear white to a wedding?

[Restrainedrabbit]

I'll be 30 weeks pregnant and the only dress I can find that I like is a white dress, I would accessorise with colour (shoes, bag, hair piece etc). Never occured to me pre- MN that this is A Bad Thing but a few threads had me thinking {grin}

• watches thread with interest -

i am going to my best friends wedding later in the year and have my eye on a beautiful backless white dress for the party afterwards, its more of a clubby style dress though so it wouldnt be anything like her wedding dress - which isnt white anyway - its cream and red!

so could people also let me know what they think to this as well please

(sorry restrained...didnt mean to hijoack thread ;) and congrats on pregnancy x ..)

A few years ago I would have told you it doesn't matter, but after going to a wedding using a cream outfit I would say... don't do it. The bride might not mind but you will find a lot of invitees commenting about it.

BTW my SIL came to my wedding with a white dress, I didn't even notice it until EVERYBODY said something in the lines of "how dare she?" when looking at the photographs...

I had people ask me if they could wear white to my wedding
I said yes as I'd have felt like a primadonna if I'd said no
But I was Rather Pissed Off
Congrats on the preg btw

Is it long and/or strapless?
Is it plain white?
Is the fabric in any way bridal?
If yes I think it would be inappropriate

Can you link?

Not necessarily sure a white dress is a great idea at 30 weeks anyway.....

Hmmm..ok... thought I could get away with it bearing in mind my condition..

No... I would say it would make it more noticeable.

It is long, not strapless (my norks would not cope with that!!), maxi dress - will be comfortable and forgiving Fabric is 90% jersey so not chiffon or anything bridal.

Should I ask the bride what she thinks, or would that put her in an awkward position?

no. I would say you shuoldnt do it.

I went ballistic when my mum said that the suit she had bought for my granny to wear to my wedding was white "with big splodges of navy blue".

My wedding colours were navy and white.

Livid livid livid.

I have always understood that is is really bad form,particularly if it is long.I have worn a cream 40's suit to a wedding but with black hat,shoes etc and it was very very un-bridal.I have also worn a cream jacket over a long green dress,but I would not do all white or all ivory,and I only wore the ivory suit as I had literally nothing else (short notice).

I wouldn't. I would, in fact, be very annoyed if anyone had done that to me but I got married in the middle of winter so fat chance!

ask the bride, I have twice and both times they said cool.

I have also asked when I wore black head to toe with a black hat

the dress i want to wear

but in white.

and it is NOT to the wedding but to the party afterwards i hasten to add!!!

Mummeee (not restrainedrabbit), as long as you have a huge tattoo of an eagle in your back, it's ok, otherwise... it's a bit bland...

I wore a pale pink silk dress, not a traditional wedding dress but everyone knew it was pink.
My sister wore a pink dress but said that as hers had 2 straps and mine was halterneck that was 'okay'
I was pissed off but lived with it.

BigBadMummy where you worried your granny would be mistaken for the bride? I'd have thought it was a good thing she co-ordinated with the wedding colours no?

My sis is getting married nad has given all of her siblings strict instructions to wear cream to the wedding, she wants us to all co-ordinate in the photos, not be in clashing colours.

Wow I am surprised at the depth of feeling on this, when I got married I was just pleased peoplew were able to join us for our day and didn't care what they wore (2 girls wore cream lacy dresses). I guess I am starting the hunt again Find it so difficult to find something I like.

Mummy09 .... sheesh if you're 18 and on the pull I'd say wear it otherwise its a bit of an odd choice TBH.

OP link to dress !

Mummee09 - you are joking right Seriously that is a very clubby outfit but you know your friends and what they're likely to be wearing. I think its a bit too try hard personally.

Restrained - I think a white maxi dress is pushing it a bit - does it not come in other colours?

haha! i am not joking

i have the same one in red and i LOVE it. i dont think you can tell on the pics but it is adjustable length, i wouldnt wear it as short as the girl in the picture is.

and the two people getting married are the biggest rockers you could meet so it aint exactly gonna be a conventional wedding!! ;)

i am only a size 6 and scrub up ok for having 2 kids so dont think there is anything wrong with wearing a dress like that!

My FIL turned up in a cream suit, he looked like a black and white minstrel i nearly offered him a bouquet to go with it, everyone sniggered behind his back.

White maxi dress - no. I really wouldn't - and asking the bride just puts her in a really difficult position of telling her hugely pg friend she can't wear the outfit she wants

Your 30 weeks pregnant and going to wear the dress on the link ? Seriously?

Am confused about wearing to the party afterwards ?

You are getting changed half way through?

Blimey Mummee09 I missed that one, a little too nightclubbish IMHO. But if you know the couple and they would be happy with it then fine I guess, couldn't miss that white dress for a wedding dress

Sorry its a Isabella Oliver one, cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=200454413728&ssPageName=STRK:MEWAX:IT#ht_646wt_1167