Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Style and beauty

Looking for style advice? Chat all about it here. For the latest discounts on fashion and beauty, sign up for Mumsnet Moneysaver emails.

Original poster

Surgical issues..aka..a little enhancement

102 replies

marthastewart · 14/11/2009 21:52

Would you? And what would you have done if so?

Have an open mind about lifting/tucking/botoxing and am wondering if this is the normal view at this stage.

Don't mean the frozen bat/stretched face look but just a little enhancement...

OP posts:
deliciousdevilwoman · 16/11/2009 14:01

I am 40 and over the last two years' have had botox to reduce lines around my eyes and on the forehead, filler around the contours of my lips (didn't opt for volume as mine are full anyway)and ontop of the cheek bones.

I look like myself, only more plumped and fresher. I would definitely not go too far and end up like one of those pillow faced celebs or the Bride of Wildenstein, although H is a bit scared that I will!

I have a cosmetic surgery fund. Have wanted a tummy tuck for years, but this will need to wait until I have completed my family (H and I will be ttc in the New Year-I have grown up sons)I would also like lazer/smart lipo on my waist and thighs.

I have no issue with anyone having cosmetic procedures/surgery for purely aesthetic reasons. As long as proper research is done,word of mouth recommendations followed up where applicable, expectations are realistic and it doesn't go too far.

sarah293 · 16/11/2009 14:18

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

deliciousdevilwoman · 16/11/2009 14:35

The filler fills in and "plumps up" folds, depressions, deeper lines etc-you see results instantly, and the botox works by stopping the muscles that make one squint/frown working as adequately so lines are reduced. You see results within 7-14 days. Botox can also give a mini brow lift when injected in the forehead. The amounts for cosmetic use is so dilute and tiny that the risks are minimal-although as with any procedure there are risks (allergic reaction, drooping)

deliciousdevilwoman · 16/11/2009 14:38

I have also had botox injected straight into the muscles around my eyeball around 6 years ago to correct a lazy eye. That was freaky but not painful!

sarah293 · 16/11/2009 14:38

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

deliciousdevilwoman · 16/11/2009 14:43

True (Iwould rather be 80 and wizened than look like Jackie Stallone or Joan Rivers!) but how I see it is I am a long time dead so want to "tweak" here and there whilst I can get away with it ;)

Lauriefairyonthetreeeatscake · 16/11/2009 14:48

has it made you look younger dangerousdevilwoman? You're only a couple of years older than me and I'm not sure that Botox would improve the tiny lines i had to make me look younger.

How old do you get mistaken for?

fannybanjo · 16/11/2009 14:49

I can understand having an operation if you feel down about a part of your body (hate your nose, boobs etc) but having surgery to make yourself look "younger" never works, you still look your age, just a bit "strange". My cousin had her eye bags removed because they were horrendous, that was great but a face lift, botox etc just doesn't look right. Grow old with dignity I say.

deliciousdevilwoman · 16/11/2009 15:43

Laurie-Most people put me as around 34-35. I didn't have it thinking it could shave 10 years off. I wanted to look like myself only fresher/smoother. My lines weren't that bad before I had it, but I had a stubborn little furrow between brows (I frown/scowl too much!)and the inevitable fine lines around the outer corners of the eyes which bugged me. My face isn't a blank mask-there are a few lines right under the lower lashes (botox can't be injected right under there) and I can move my face-I would hate that frozen look.

I love how my face looks with Juverderm (filler) in my cheeks. It looks "lifted". I had it done on Saturday. My lips are still a bit swollen-but not in a trout pout way.

As I said, I am not going to take any of it too far. Would not want to look like weird or frozen. A "tweak" every six months or so or for a special occasion-I see that as ok for me.

Original poster
marthastewart · 16/11/2009 15:47

I would be afraid of getting really "into" the whole process. I mean starting off q. restrained with a view to just do one simple nose bump - but getting addicted and getting more and more extreme.

I've seen that with a person who just can't seem to stop and end up looking very plastic and not at all attractive.

I get that it won't make you look younger necessarilly but hope it might freeze time.
Wishful thinking?

OP posts:
kkey21 · 16/11/2009 15:49

I am having a tummy tuck in January! Plus sone other repairs to mu muscles and a ahrnia repair at the same time.

G-U-L-P!

kkey21 · 16/11/2009 15:53

sorry my little one was helping me post! 'my muscles' and a 'hernia' repair!

sarah293 · 16/11/2009 15:56

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

deliciousdevilwoman · 16/11/2009 15:57

Martha-filler can last up to a year, but botox wears within 3-4 months-although I have heard that regular botox injections can have a residual effect in that you can go longer between top ups.

I don't know anyone who has had a face lift.

I agree plastic is not attractive. Around 3 years back I went to a cocktail party with H and it was full of women who had taken it all too far. They were dressed fantastically and had great figures but when they turned around nearly all of them looked weird-"startled" or frozen. They had obviously had too much or too many top ups. I saw that as a salutory lesson if I ever did start having it (I had been mulling over for some time).

sarah293 · 16/11/2009 16:55

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

8oreighty · 16/11/2009 17:01

kkey21 tell me more...I am going to have a tummy tuck, I had to have the muscles done a few years ago, had twins, and was enormous, am really short, and they were big babies, so had a kind of hernia. Now thinner than I used to be but yucky tummy, I wear a corset every damn day so need to do it. I had been putting it off in case we wanted more kids, find it impossible to make a final decision on that. Now have lost my nerve! Thinking of doing it in new year though...

Amandoh I saw your posts earlier...was it not that bad?

SkipToMyLou · 16/11/2009 17:03

I'd like gorgeous feet, and maybe to be a few inches shorter so I can just buy clothes anywhere I feel like. But it's never going to happen.

LibrasBiscuitsOfFortune · 16/11/2009 17:15

As soon as we have finished having children I am having a breast op, nothing humungous just up to a nice round C (I am 5'10 so this won't look huge on me). I think the trick with plastic surgery/enhancements is knowing when to stop!

Amandoh · 16/11/2009 17:45

8oreighty ~ Honestly, every op I've had done has been completely pain free. I was in hospital for four days with the tummy tuck as it wasn't really a tuck more a whole lift! I have an anchor shaped scar. It starts from behind one hip and carries on all the way along my lower stomach and finishes at the back of the other hip and then another scar that runs from the middle of that scar, just above my pubic line, up to just under my boobs. The scar is so thin and pale that you have to really look hard to see it. I was up and about within hours and was actually asked by the physio to slow down.

Re breast reduction scars: Again, the scars are anchor shaped and there's also scarring around each nipple as they were removed and then stitched back on. You can hardly see the scars. They're very thin and very faint. I have no sensation in my right nipple but honestly couldn't care less. I know there are horror stories about nipples falling off but this generally happens when infection has set in or in smokers. I was given a heavy dose of antibiotics after each operation so that any infection was prevented and my wounds were kept scrupulously clean.

DeliciousDevilWoman ~ Do you mind if I ask where in the country you are? I've read a bit about Juverderm being injected into the cheeks to help plump them up after weight loss and that it can also help fill laughter lines but was worried that it might result in the puffy look of Lulu et al. From what you say that hasn't happened so I'd be interested to know who it was you saw with a view to seeing them myself if they're not too far away.

deliciousdevilwoman · 16/11/2009 18:51

Amandoh-I am in Surrey and saw Dr Sarah Tonks at the Garden Skin Clinic in Purley. She did my cheeks and lips.

When I had filler previously in my lips and frown lines, I saw Dr Nabijee at Woodside Aesthetics in Wimbledon.

I have heard that Dr Michael Prager in Wimpole Street, W1 is excellent.

Amandoh · 16/11/2009 22:27

Thank you for replying DeliciousDevilWoman.

It's my cheeks and laughter lines I'd like something done about so the clinic in Purley is ideal as I'm just down the road in Caterham.

LetThemEatCake · 16/11/2009 22:57

sooooo tempting - so much I'd change, But wouldn't - I know my personality: once I start, I don't stop. I don't even wear makeup and have never coloured my hair, partly for this very reason.

A friend of mine in the US had had botox ,,, I was visiting and we chatted about it; i said I'd love my so-called 'smile lines' (I call them my ancient Chinese prophet's moustache) zapped .. the next morning she handed me an ad for restylane. It said "Parentheses have a place ... but not on your face"

Feelingforty · 16/11/2009 23:06

I've had my nose done twice -the 2nd time was to correct something the surgeon missed (good one hey) No pain, no packing, some bruising & pufffiness.

Also had my boobs done, which was agony. For about 3 days. They are a bit big for me, I'd like to get them to a b cup (they are a round c) but not quite brave enough.

Amandoh · 16/11/2009 23:54

"Parentheses have a place ... but not on your face"

A rhyming slogan. Every industry needs one.

LetThemEatCake ~ You're gorgeous! You don't need anything done.

Amandoh · 17/11/2009 00:01

FeelingForty ~ I'm assuming you had a reduction as you say you'd like them to be a B cup rather than the C you are now. Do you know why you were in agony? I really had no pain at all and I can't understand why I felt nothing yet others had pain. Were you given stronger pain killers and if so did they help?

Actually, now I think of it, the drains hurt when they came out but each one was out in seconds so not prolonged pain.