miserable ageing chat - no fuckers welcome

[NoahDear]

only us

I recently coloured my grey, it took years off me, made me skin look good too.

made my skin look good....

Another 46 here. When did that happen?

I'm thinking of cultivating my chin hairs and making money as a side show in a circus.

Anyhow, at the moment I'm sat with a bag of peas on my anke as I fell this afternoon while out blackberrying (wearing sensible shoes!)

I am about to start a 'loose a stone before Christmas ' diet so that I can get in my only decent party dress which is a 14

Okay, I really don't see myself as the cheerful fucker in any situation but can I say -

you know when you were 20 and you were great, but perhaps didn't know it. So now we're 40 thinking 'god, I wish you'd known how great you looked at 20 and hadn't stressed about your knees so much) and when we're 60 we'll think we were great at 40, but actually we won't have enjoyed being 40 either because of all the stressing over hair and muffin tops and lines and grey hair.

So.

Enough.

I have a thick chin hair, which I pluck out. Recently I have notice that alot of downy hair has started growing around it, which I now have to wax off with wax strips.
God, I am becoming a whiskery old hag!

Yeah but when you are 20, the decline is such a long way away. then you hit around 35, and all of sudden there is no going back, it gets harder and harder to look 'fresh'.
At 40ish, you really struggle, and everything gets much more difficult.

I want to look fresh and rested. Instead I look marked, and worn.

Well fuck fresh, you haven't lived for 40 years in order to look fresh fgs - enough with wanting to be fresh. When I was fresh, I didn't want to look fresh, I wanted to look like a beatnik poet who lived off red wine and cigarettes.

You want to look cool, classic, powerful, sexy, potent.

That's the look we want!

I am 39 and clinging. Have to start taking supplements for my knees, my body creeks when I get out of bed in the morning and I have the stomach of a seventy year old thanks to 4, 10lb plus babies, delivered by the c/s. I havn't been to a nightclub since the last millenium and my hangover begins these days before I finish a glass of wine.

The amount of effort skill and trickery involved in looking fresh is knackering and once you get an ok-ish level of looking good it only lasts about an hour where in my 20s and 30s it lasted all day

100x that is so true, I got married first time whenI ws twenty and under eight stone and I wouldn't wear a bikini or short skirt because I was so self concious.

If I met me now I would shake me!

You got any tips for that 100x?

Please don't make me wear vertiginous heels though. I am tall enough without and I don't like hobbling.

i feel better aged 40 that i have for ages and ages. know what clothes/hair/make up etc suit me.

so def not a miserable ageing git yet! haha

My eyes have collapsed. Egg white does not cut the mustard. How can I achieve an eyelift for 75p?

So ae you saying 100 I should forget the eye cream and get my kohl eyeliner out?

erm . . no. I'm fairly certain that I don't look any of those things. Except I have a very direct stare, so that's powerful covered

Lillibet, I'd shake me at 20 too. Dear god, all the angst and I would never wear a bikini either.

Okay, Tips: we need to think Lauren Bacall rather than dewy youth.

We are going to be empowered 40 year olds, who dress and live with the benefit of experience and wisdom and the confidence that comes with knowing yourself.

This will include - well cut shirts with good collars, clean shoes, cut hair, simple make-up.

We are NOT going to try and wear shift summer dresses in day-glo orange because we want to be fresh

We are releasing our inner femme fatales

Kerry don't open that Pandora's box, you'll get wishful thinking of a very different sort

What do you mean egg white does not cut the mustard? Are we making a strange meringue? Is there a special eye-related use for eggwhite? Does it involve mustard? Or were you cutting the mustard rhetorically?

I think perhaps by fresh I meant Not looking friggin tired all the time.

Away from the looks, I am in a happy place, my forties ahve been happier than the previous decades.

Dd used to wrk for Estee Lauder which was really great - 75% staff discount of all sorts of goodies. She has now moved to Benefit, they don't seem to bother about anti aging !

Poor man's eye lift - raw egg white round the eyes. It works for oooh 5 minutes.