The opposite of dreading the school fashion parade: dreading the school fleece brigade!

[Jewelsandgems]

My little girl has just started nursery and I thought it would be nice to get to know some other mums.

I wear fashionable clothes! And because of this, the only mums who talk to me are those very few others who also wear the same kind of clothes. The majority wear bootcut jeans and fleeces. Now I have nothing against fleeces and jeans, and when the weather is rubbish you will find me in the same things!

Does anyone else have this? Honastly, I wore my rain hat the other day and I swear a few of the mums sneered at me. Should I just have turned up with sopping wet hair?!!

I am totally considereding addapting a fleecy look just to get to know some other mums I have tried smiling and saying hello, but no response.

Ok Riven, maybe that was abit of a sweeping generalisation

Maybe I could change it to 'quite a lot of women like clothes fgs' ??

Are you really the only muslim at school, where abouts are you?

Actually this is posted in 'Style & Beauty' so maybe it wasn't such a sweeping generalisation?

its not a Boden abaya is probably what they are thinking
But not a one talks to me and dd has never been on a playdate.
Mind you, after this thread I realise that its probably the fleece [

and not racist. I am white. So is everyone else in the school.

dd is at school in Boden-land Bodenista. Its a school about 3 miles from here on a very posh estate. The local school couldn't take her. Now, the local mummies are all fleece n muffins

Hmm Boden land

v's

fleece n muffins

i think I prefer a mix of looks like at my dcs' school, keeps life interesting.

People do make assumptions about people on what they wear.

I was speaking to another mum the other day and she said to me 'Oh, I definitely had you down for Advertising or Marketing, not that' when I told her what I did.

what do you do hf? Am imaging snappy suit while you are actually a tree surgeon now

I have a fleece and wear it proudly. I have noticed, however, that birds of a feather tend to flock together outside the school. It's like the gangs in Westside Story almost. Over my years (since 1995) of doing the school run I have been befriended by different groups according to what I was wearing, hairstyle, clothing, car and especially weight. Now that I am one of the older mums in my youngest DCs class, I tend not to care so much about the fickleness of the other mummies, because I have made friends as the years went by with a good few other parents from my older children's classes. I think insecurity has a lot to do with it -- people won't approach you for a chat or try to develop a friendship if they think they won't be able to keep up with you, or they think you will look down your posh nose at their sofa, for instance, if they come over for coffee.

I am a Civil Servant working in investigation.

Ooh a spy!

I don't even know what a rain hat is? I wear the same clothes every day and sometimes don't put on any knickers if I can't find any clean ones (hate rewearing dirty knickers). A couple of times I've turned up in whatever I have slept in. 9am is the middle of the night imo and I plan to return to my bed the minute I get home!

And it RARELY rains that much that your hair gets sopping wet - really - wimps. I don't drive and school is a 35 min walk and I can't ever remember a time when I got that wet and I don't even own an umbrella!

And yet, - somehow I have friends!

And imvhe, it is ONLY the people that dress fashionably that have an inkling what anyone else is wearing, - they are, afterall, the ones obsessed by clothes.

I personally think that women who think too much about what other people are wearing at the school gates are not quite right in the head.

Get a life.

tbh jewels, I don't really like your attitude very much and I reckon for that reason I would snub you at the school gates. Perhaps you need to think more about why you feel the way you do rather than projecting onto people who probably don't give a feck about your clothes and are avoiding you for other reasons altogether.

And your excuse for having a boden hat being because it was the only one that really fits - WHY were you even IN Boden? (can you go in boden? - AW wonders whether it is a real shop or an online shop or a figment of MN's imagination since she's never heard of it being mentioned anywhere else)

lol angrywasp

There is a Boden shop in North London. I saw it whilst out on covert surveillance.

rofl @angrywasp, my sentiments exactly.

I think actually that I would try to avoid someone in a Boden rain hat. It's too much of a statement thing for me. Boden is full stop.
I only ever get Boden dirt cheap in the sales for the kids. It's too obvious on an adult and always says" look I'm wearing overpriced boden"

hf

I don't think anyone can/should make a decision on whether one is going to talk to another/return smiles based on seeing ma person about - oh 8 times. DD only started nursery last week.

So what other reason could there by angrywsp?

I live in scotland. It rains here. Get mover it.

Well I am going to walk away from this thread now. And keybrd is running out of power.

Thankyou to all of you who posted lovely messages.

Well if you're convinced it IS your clothes, try wearing a fleece and leggings and see if that makes you more popular?

AW she already said that on days that she dresses down people are nicer to her

Make of that what you will