Well my "style" seems to be rare... or those of you like me are too shy to say it?

[velcrobott]

In the past few weeks I have posted on topics such as food, Mc Donald and TV....
Now Am I the only one who always cooks from fresh for her kids (because they enjoy the quality of the food and I like cooking), does not go to McD (they wouldn't like it as there is no way I am buying the "gift") and who thinks they have a far better time playing then watching tele.

I was quite surprised to read that several people (and I am sure thousands more) feel it's a treat to feed your kids occasional junk food... what has our society come to??? For those who have the desire, time and interest to not feed junk, allow much/any tele... is it normal that we are considered the odd ones out, the weird ones? It use to be like this (generations ago), it was the norm... now we're called all sorts of things but made to feel that we are too puritanical.

I am sure some of you are going to take this as a controversial thread, it isn't meant like that I want to know if anyone feels like this too.... I feel very lonely on Mumsnet with my more "puritanic" stance

Shhhh but another small comment re breastfeeding..to Gobbledigook.. and doing stuff whilst 'baby hangs from tit' (I was the one who made the orginal crude remark, sorry ).. I don't think it negates the bonding thing no.. because obv I wasn't feeding them like that all the time, just when I had to. When you are not a first time mum (and I bottle fed my first) you HAVE to get up and do things sometimes.. and seeing as I bf for ten months (DD) and 2 years (DS2).. I couldn't always be sitting there gazing at them lovingly.

But then I have never believed that bottle feeding prevents bonding anyway.

SJ x

Ooops sorry.. have killed stone dead a previously healthy thread!

We only have water because we all like water

also if we have squash in the house the dds will drink gallons of squash and not eat anything

I was thinking how bonkers this debate is. I couldn't give a tinkers cuss what anyone feeds their children

soapbox - ditto

tbh i just dont care. we have macdonalds/kfc/pizza most weeks, but with the amount of time travelling to hospital and eating on the go etc, its the only way my kids get fed. I am phasing out processed convience foods, nuggets and smiley faces at home, and on days when i am home long enough to cook a meal then i do. but if we're heading home, its gone 6pm, i havenmt been shopping and the kids havent eaten, then letting them have a happy meal is sometimes all i can do to make sure they eat and get to bed on time to be ready for school the next day. they have a good breakfast, and dd1 has school dinners (but is having packed lunches next term), and dd2 eats well at lunchtime. its the evenings that are a problems at times.

sorry, its misdee not mieow

I do think you should get out more velcrobott

Who said vegetarian hair? That made me laugh. I am also going to knit my own muesli from now on.

This makes for fascinating reading..... clearly I am not alone ... and again - repeating myself - I would not forbid anything but like WWW I just don't buy it... and yes they have chips, crisps and fruit shoots at some parties... having said that they often come back totally hyper after the parties!
Mears - I also BF long term as I found it much easier LOL

ah but Velcrobott, the hyperness might be due to the sheer excitement of having these forbidden foods. IMO you can't assume your children's mood is purely a result of what they have eaten. Children IME, are often hyper after seeing crowds of their friends, running around, getting party bags, playing pass the parcel, etc etc.

And is there anything wrong with them coming back from a party hyper?

Yes they are loud and harder work, but their eyes are shining and they look so happy. I will happily take the noise of hyperness, and the tears of the come down to see that look of delight and excitement in their eyes.

I remember that feeling so well - MacDonald's own brand coke was great - I'd be bouncing off the walls in no time!

thats it flamesparrow, in a nutshell

their eyes are shining because they are effectively on drugs

My kiddies get completely hyper just from seeing Daddy come back after working away....and they wouldn't have eaten anything to make them that way first. Equally they come back hyper from seeing their grandparents, and yes, they could well have been eating 'forbidden friuts', but as the grandparents say, it is their perogotive(sp?). As it is for a party!!!

My kiddies may well grow up and be appalled at my apparent lack of parenting skills, but at least they will have had enough experiences during their childhood to be able to make that choice.
Any of the kiddies from the so call 'better' parents (not that any parent on this board is 'better', we are all just different, and that can only be a good thing as we can all learn from each other!), may just grow up and decide to feed their own kiddies all the 'junk' they missed out on as children just to rebel!!!!!!

I know for a fact that the icing on those character birthday cakes you buy in the supermarket sends DS hyper. I've given it him the day after the party and it has the same effect. Before I had DS I was quite sceptical about the effect of food additives on children, basically through ignorance.

At all my dd's birthday parties (she's now 8) most of the children are hyper long before the (relatively healthy at my parties!) food comes out. I'd be very worried if they all sat there being docile - I want them to have fun at parties.

Nope, I know they have huge effect (jelly tots send my bouncing round the room), but sometimes, I just don't care.

Allo Psycho!

DD comes home from playgroup hyper as a hummingbird and they don't get snacks there. I think just being around peers and tearing about gets them worked up.

Lentil bake would be a life experience for me!

Altho, I think maybe my words came out wrong????

Well they don't come back hyper from school or from parties at friends...
And there is nothing wrong with a happy, dymanic child at all.... running riot and unable to sit down or stop to listen adn doing silly or sometimes dangerous things is different though.

Last night I was thinking about all of this and someone was saying I was being sanctimonious... I am sorry if I come across like that but equally I get asked what's wrong with sweets and how sad I am for not allowing my kids to go to certain parties (it only happened once and he hardly knew the child anyway!)... why is that bad? I don't forbid things I just don't have them in my house. Why is it right for someto question my parentinf style and not come across themselves as sanctimonious.... I can see mumsnet has a lot of women who feel similarely to me so my thread has been answered
BTW -I do work full time... and am off to it now...

Velcrobott, don't let them get you down!
You're right,lots of us do feel the same way as you and we are quite normal too, not exclusively fanatics who weave their own yurts and eat their offsprings' placentas (and major respect to anyone who does that!)

Did laugh at fs's comment about coming back from party's hyper! Too right! If you aint a bit hyper, then what kind of a party was it?! (Cringing now recalling how many parties I've reeled and lurched out of completely hyper from one thing or another... Years ago, naturally, before I became a responsible mother...)

Our eyes shine nicely after alcohol - a drug too

Great ain't it!?!

Quite psychoflame! Dh and I are such hypocrites. We'll drive home on a w/end, tut tutting at all the inebriated youths hanging around the square, then get home and rip into the wine!

Hey, must remember that - I'm not p**d, I'm just a bit er, hyper