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Ooh, DH bought me my 'congratulations and thankyou for having our baby' present today! What did dh get you for popping out your dc?

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yousaidit · 15/10/2008 02:04

even though dc hasn't actually arrived yet (overdue),i got an eternity ring for popping out dd (thinking my fanjo was on fire mmight have upped the spend limit on that one!!! ) but as we are officially skint i had mentioned previously to dh jewellery and the like was a no no now for our spending, but today when we were out mooching rould the shops, dh picked out a lovely huge slouchy radley bag, in a sort f pale petrol blue colour with a pale brown mustardy thick soft handle to sit on you shoulder!

Very yummy and i'm very happy with it! But can't have it til dc arrives!

It even came in a nice big boxy bag (not it's fabric protective bag but a radley shopping bag!!!!!
So, what did your dh get you to show their eternal thanks for popping out your dc?

OP posts:
hatwoman · 15/10/2008 10:14

the problem with the thread title is the word "my". it implies expectation. "a" wouldn't.

expatinscotland · 15/10/2008 10:14

'Should I have chucked it back at him and acted all offended, so as not to Betray Womankind?'

Erm, no, you should not take so personally the opinion of a random stranger on the net.

It's generally a good recipe for keeping one's blood pressure in check.

Cappuccino · 15/10/2008 10:14

god psycho I might just have killed him

ExtraFancy · 15/10/2008 10:15

Cappuccino mine did that too!

hatwoman · 15/10/2008 10:16

psychomum - do you think it was because he was your "last" - completing the family (regardless of gender) or is that just wishful thinking?

expatinscotland · 15/10/2008 10:17

too right, Capp! DH will have a month off after DS is born. Bliss!

'popping out' dc.

blech.

Cappuccino · 15/10/2008 10:17

just wondered

will the radley bag from the OP fit all the nappy crap in?

PsychoAxeMurdererMum · 15/10/2008 10:19

wilber...believe me, it got me very angry at the time (well, I blamed the hormones as I did want to keep the sparkly ring). I just found it a little sad that he waited till I had a boy to buy me something. I really did not expect anything from him at all with any of them (bar flowers, but I like flowers and I would have been happy enough with a £1.99 bunch from tesco), but to only have done it with the birth of a son was a wee bit sad (and, made me feel as tho he did feel as tho I should have done it 'right' and produced the heir first time round IYGWIM).

I didn;t get anything for the second son tho, unless you count a new mahoosive fridge and tumble drier!

Eniddo · 15/10/2008 10:20

Well I don't care if you all got naice handbags or sparkly rings

its still shite to associate the birth of a child with getting more material stuff and when you start to get disappointed that you only get a bunch of flowers but your bf gets a ring you need to pull yourself together.

PsychoAxeMurdererMum · 15/10/2008 10:20

hatwoman..he probably did think that......I just ruined the illusion by having another son 2yrs later!

ExtraFancy · 15/10/2008 10:21

Before DS was born, the only thing I wanted DH to get me afterwards was a bloody great wedge of Stilton and a big glass of champagne. Anything else was a (welcome) bonus...but boy that cheese tasted good...

hatwoman · 15/10/2008 10:23

what about a piano though? it isn;t sparkly and it I don;t think it's particularly materialistic. sorry I should probably have a smug emoticon but I think I got the best present on here I don;t do big rings or bags that cost more than about £30.

Cappuccino · 15/10/2008 10:24

I wonder if any of the people who did receive a wonderful expensive present are the same women who moan 5 years later that their money isn't shared 50:50 and their dh has control?

it's just a thought

but I could not have countenanced spending a huge amount of the family income on a ring when we were just starting out with a new child to care for

it seems to me that if blokes are allowed to buy extravagant gifts at this point (I'm not talking about flowers, I'm talking about emeralds) it confirms to them the old-fashioned I Am The Master Of The Home And This Is My Money With Which To Do As I Please approach to marriage

hatwoman · 15/10/2008 10:24

so in fact it was a "right that's enough now" present

expatinscotland · 15/10/2008 10:25

I'd be majorly peeved if I got a Radley bag.

Not even my 67-year-old mother would have one of those. But she's becoming increasingly exigeante in her old age.

PsychoAxeMurdererMum · 15/10/2008 10:25

capp.......had I not been in hospital still, I think I might have killed him too.

you know what tho, writing all this down and thinking back.....I wonder if part of it was all tied up to the fact that I had had a car accident at 28wks pregnant with DS1, and we all thought I was going to lose him (oh, and he was actually a twin, but I lost his twin early pregnancy).........maybe he thought in his way that me getting the eternity ring I had been asking for at each birthday and xmas since we married (I knew it was supposed to be tradition for it to be given at first birth/anniversary, but I just wanted one as a pressie), was kind of a nice thing to do.

meh, who knows really what went thro his mind.....in my hormonal state it was connected to me having finally had a boy, and he did not correct me from my rant about it (altho I did keep the ring)

ShowOfHands · 15/10/2008 10:26

Psycho that's bloody atrocious.

Wilbur that's lovely that you will pass it on to your dd. A nice heirloom then.

It's horses for courses. I find it naff but then I find baby showers, celebratory cigars, pink/blue themes and babies in outfits naff too.

Hoorah for differences.

mehgalegs · 15/10/2008 10:26

DH gave me a little card that simply said "Thank you for our little son" just typing it has made my eyes sting .

I am hoping for big and sparkley for my 40th next month though

hatwoman · 15/10/2008 10:26

c 50:50 split here. and a dh who works 2 days a week and is a sahd 3 days.

curlywurlycremeegg · 15/10/2008 10:27

Sweet FA seems to top th list

A got that aswell, and I am on DC4 now

expatinscotland · 15/10/2008 10:27

yes, vive la difference, SOH! i agree.

can you still buy a large Longchamps tote bag in the UK?

Cappuccino · 15/10/2008 10:27

"he did not correct me from my rant about it"

dh would say he was just keeping quiet till you had finished and then hoping it would all go away

did he look like a rabbit trapped in headlights?

PsychoAxeMurdererMum · 15/10/2008 10:27

hatwoman......yep, he was probably hoping it would stop the babies coming.

believe me, a ring of that size is not good contraception!

berolina · 15/10/2008 10:28

I agree hatwoman (about you having the best present). I would be but I got my longed-for piano when pg with ds2 - it was in fact dh who talked me into it. I love my piano.

CatIsSleepy · 15/10/2008 10:28

of course I wouldn't have said no to an extravagant present...
it just didn't seem to be what was required at the time
plenty of flowers etc etc from other people
dh went to sainsbury's and bought me maternity pads...now that was required and appreciated

at expat's, enid's and expat's comments on this thread