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Ooh, DH bought me my 'congratulations and thankyou for having our baby' present today! What did dh get you for popping out your dc?

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yousaidit · 15/10/2008 02:04

even though dc hasn't actually arrived yet (overdue),i got an eternity ring for popping out dd (thinking my fanjo was on fire mmight have upped the spend limit on that one!!! ) but as we are officially skint i had mentioned previously to dh jewellery and the like was a no no now for our spending, but today when we were out mooching rould the shops, dh picked out a lovely huge slouchy radley bag, in a sort f pale petrol blue colour with a pale brown mustardy thick soft handle to sit on you shoulder!

Very yummy and i'm very happy with it! But can't have it til dc arrives!

It even came in a nice big boxy bag (not it's fabric protective bag but a radley shopping bag!!!!!
So, what did your dh get you to show their eternal thanks for popping out your dc?

OP posts:
MrsMattie · 15/10/2008 09:55

I didn't get a present. Don't think the thought crossed DH's mind!

edam · 15/10/2008 09:56

An eternity ring. Lovely but very odd - it's either too big for me or too small, never fits, even though I've had it re-sized (twice, so can't have it altered again, apparently).

Nice gesture, though.

flourybaps · 15/10/2008 09:57

I got a large big mac meal........ thats it, no sparklers. He's a great dad though, we alternate the night feeds and early mornings, a lie in, thats the best gift for me.

Cappuccino · 15/10/2008 09:57

completely agree with TheMadHouse

the idea of getting presents for giving birth from your dh is bizarre

I mean friends, yes

but you haven't had a baby to please him; giving birth to a child is not something to be rewarded for in monetary terms either

the whole idea seems a bit "little wifey" to me and I really wouldn't have been comfortable receiving anything. I didn't give him a present for donating his sperm.

if everyone is happy with their presents then that's lovely, good for them

but besides when I was bleeding from every orifice including some brand new ones, getting 1 hours sleep and generally looking like a large beige cushion, I wasn't really in the mood to think about tripping downtown to show off my new jewellery

wilbur · 15/10/2008 09:58

It is lovely Foghorn - makes me smile every time I wear it.

Showofhands - I'm not really a jewellery person either, so it made the presents all the more special. I plan to give the eternity ring to dd eventually, which is a nice thought. V impressed with your dh cleaning house from top to toe though, that is a skill more precious than diamonds!

expatinscotland · 15/10/2008 09:58

a baby present?

eeeeww, sooooooo American.

naffola.

i'm not a brood mare to be given a treat for foaling.

Eniddo · 15/10/2008 09:59

nothing

we don't have that kind of relationship

he got three beautiful dds for which we are both thrilled

a pair of earrings seems stupid and petty in comparison tbh

Cappuccino · 15/10/2008 10:00

well there I was wondering if I'd offend someone with my opinion and then along came expat and gave even worse

ta expat

scaryboo · 15/10/2008 10:01

Some v. pretty flowers. I was a little disappointed, I must confess! One bf got an eternity ring and another got an emerald ring hidden in her newborn dd's nappies. Odd but not to be sniffed at, eh?

trishpops · 15/10/2008 10:02

errr..FA. but v.v.v.v helpful and supportive so that totally makes up 4 it

PuzzleRocks · 15/10/2008 10:03

Oh bollocks to the dissenters, I consider it financial reparation for my fanjo.

scaryboo · 15/10/2008 10:03

Just read expat's recent post. Not American, just lots of dosh. Unlike us. Of course, to be perrrrrfectly pc, a healthy child is the best gift of all.

Eniddo · 15/10/2008 10:04

sorry but the thread title and the op makes me feel slightly nauseous

Wheelybug · 15/10/2008 10:05

Well we bought each other presents a couple of months after dd was born. It wasn't a thank you - more of something to commemorate (not sure that's the right word) it. As someone else says, it something special to hand down too. Can't really see anything naff about that but each to their own.

scaryboo · 15/10/2008 10:05

Oh, lighten up!

Lizzylou · 15/10/2008 10:07

Neither of my DC's were "popped out", completely the opposite.

I agree, you shouldn't expect your DH/DP to buy you something for producing offspring, I do want an eternity ring though!

Our best present we got with DS1(far more practical than the mountains of flowers we had) was a cooked chicken and some supplies given to us by PIL.

wilbur · 15/10/2008 10:07

It's a gift to mark a special occasion, a major birthday - not a condescending pat on the head from the paterfamilias. If you are happy without a gift, that's fine (and tremendously well-adjusted), but I think most men who buy something for their partners after a birth are just saying they are proud and happy and also acknowledging all the piles and heartburn and stitches that it took to get the bundle of joy here in the first place. I hardly think any man tosses over a ring box and says "Here darling, now you can forget that burning fanny and make my tea".

Besides, dh is flipping lucky to have me and 3 healthy dcs, and I quite like having a couple of small, concrete reminders of that.

expatinscotland · 15/10/2008 10:08

'Not American, just lots of dosh.'

You are presuming that people who find it naff do not have lots of dosh. An incorrect assumption, I can assure you.

I'm with your, Eniddo.

PsychoAxeMurdererMum · 15/10/2008 10:11

well......

I had absolutely fuck all for the three girls.

when I had our first son however (after the three girls), I got a sparkly eternity ring and a dishwasher.

made me very cross that he waited for me to 'finally' produce the son to actually decide I was worthy of a present.

I did not actually mind too much until friends of mine kept going on about how big a bunch of flowers they had for having their first baby/how sparkly the jewellery was etc.

and TBH, a bunch of flowers per baby would have been absolutely fine IMO

ExtraFancy · 15/10/2008 10:12

I didn't get a gift because I'm a 'brood mare' - he wanted to get me something special to mark the occasion! Should I have chucked it back at him and acted all offended, so as not to Betray Womankind?

hatwoman · 15/10/2008 10:12

sorry but whether we like it or not there is one aspect of this parenting lark where team work doesn;t quite cut it. I didn't do it (give birth) for dh and he didn;t buy me a present because I did something for him. He bought me something in recognition that no matter how hard he held my hand, how emotionally stressful he found it, how well he performed in the saying the right thing at the right time stakes, I did something huge, terrifying and massively painful. because I had to. and he couldn't.I got a present and I'm not a brood mare and neither does my husband think I am. (and neither am I offended by C or expat btw - just enjoying a rant )

it was a piano.

it was also a joint 5th anniversary/30th birthday/this is the start of us being a family present.

solidgoldskullonastick · 15/10/2008 10:12

I got flowers from friends and (rather sweetly) a cheque for £100 from my last employer with a nice card saying 'Treat yourself to something'. DS' dad and I weren't on speaking terms at the time of the birth and not a couple anyway.

My mum did give me a lovely carnelian pendant that Xmas (DS was born in September) with his name and the date on the back, which I like and still wear frequantly.

Eniddo · 15/10/2008 10:13

fucking hell that would have made me FURIOUS psycho mum - i hope your girls never hear about that

Cappuccino · 15/10/2008 10:14

well I very much appreciated dh negotiating additional paternity leave, and expecting me to do absolutely sod all in terms of cooking or housework for the first two months

I think he wore an apron the entire time

that to me was a far better way of "acknowledging all the piles and heartburn and stitches"

wilbur · 15/10/2008 10:14

Oh, Psychoaxe - that would make me too! I didn't get flowers either - I think I had some Hollywood idea of dh striding down the ward dwarfed by a huge bunch of flowers, so I was a bit childishly disappointed when they didn't appear. Arf. I blame the hormones.