Can I DEFINITELY not wear white to a wedding? Even a civil ceremony?

[Pinkjenny]

OK, so the plan to lose a stone failed, and I am stuck on what to wear. The wedding is on Saturday, and although my planned red outfit does fit me, the top is a little on the snug side due to my enormous post-dd norks. I have two options, a flowery Coast dress from a few seasons ago that I've only worn once, or a gorgeous white dress that I love, which is knee length and very summery, not at all wedding-y, from Gap.

I really dislike the bride to be honest, but I'm not going to let that cloud my judgement. Can I definitely not wear the white one? I think she'd think I'd worn it to annoy her.

BTW - couple are dh's friends from Uni - not friends of mine.

no - do not wear white to a wedding

bad form

Wear the coast one.

You see, that's what I'd say. I just thought hoped maybe I was being a little too traditional in my views.

All you can do is ask the bride what colour she is wearing. If she is not wearing white/cream or variation of those then it's okay.

I didn't wear white/cream even though it was a church do and a close friens asked if it was okay to wear the same colour as me IYSWIM (I said yes btw!)

PJ, wear the white one. With a veil. And try to carry some flowers.

[imp]

Hmmm. I'd probably have thought the same, although tbh I can't remember what anyone wore at my wedding. Apart from me, of course.

flowers in her hair

i would have decked her - 'tis your special day after all!

When I got married Jo-Lo had made the white/cream trouser suit popular. At least eight of my friends wore white or cream suits to my wedding, which I thought was quite bad form I was a bit pissed off and the group photo's look really bland as everyone's wearing neutral colours. I certainly don't stand out as the bride. Don't wear white; wear something bright and bold.

Bog off SOH - and you didn't even have a white wedding dress!

OK, OK, I'll wear the Coast one. Or maybe I could have a boob reduction by the weekend?

i wouldnt wear white to someone elses wedding but it really is down to personal choice really. if the bride isnt bothered then it will be ok but if you are not really friends and have no way of asking her then i would play it safe and wear another outfit. the flowery one sounds nice so maybe wear that.
xx ei xx

Malory that's Very Bad Form. I would have said something very pointed indeed.

PJ, Tonic and I have been arranging her stay with me. You were invited but that bog off comment has wounded me terribly.

don't wear white, it's rude. You will look like you are attention seeking

I'm really not attention seeking, I promise, I just really am struggling with something to wear.

I'll wear the flowery one, promise.

SOH - I can't even believe you are arranging this behind my back.

Ah. Now I'm worried. Is black and white OK.

Would a new well-fitted bra make enough difference for the red dress?

I once wore a blue dress to a friends wedding which was exactly the same shade as the bridesmaids. A rumour went round that I'd done it deliberately because i was at not being chosen!

No, don't wear white.

Shame you don't like the bride Don't think I wouldn't have wanted someone who didn't like me at my wedding.

I wore a peach dress and cream jacket to SIL wedding and she wore a cream suit with peach top I must admit I do not like her but I had no idea what she was wareing, I would have worn something else had I known but she would not tell anyone her colours in case they wore the same...yep that worked

"she would not tell anyone her colours in case they wore the same"

PMSL!

AuntieSocial - she's a cow, honestly. Don't feel bad for her.

Oh, ok then, do I detect you are there under sufferance?

Will you tell us what cow-ish thing she's done? Might be good to get it off your chest before the big day [gossip emoticon]

flowery one is obviously best

She's just a very strange fish, quite rude and a bit of a snob. The two examples that spring to mind are:

At my hen night - she sat and sulked all night for some reason. We went to a comedy club in Liverpool (I am a scouser, she is not), and she sat with her arms folded, going 'I'm sorry, but this is just not funny at all', and refused to speak to anyone. Then at the end of the night, we went to thw chippy (as you do), where a typical scouse lad was ordering his chips in a Burberry baseball cap, and she turned to me and all my scouse friends, and said, 'You see him, that's what I think of when I think of Liverpool and the people that live here'. I ended my hen night in tears of sheer embarrassment.

When I was pg, her SIL was about two months ahead of me. On NYE, we went for a meal, and I was about 18 weeks pg, feeling a bit lardy, and I went and got all dressed, felt nice, and then came back downstairs. I stood up to close the curtains and she said, 'God, SIL is two months further on than you, and she still looks normal, you look absolutely massive, just huge'.

At my wedding, every time the video pans onto her, she is standing with her arms folded, sulking. I don't intend to behave like that though.