Can I DEFINITELY not wear white to a wedding? Even a civil ceremony?

[Pinkjenny]

OK, so the plan to lose a stone failed, and I am stuck on what to wear. The wedding is on Saturday, and although my planned red outfit does fit me, the top is a little on the snug side due to my enormous post-dd norks. I have two options, a flowery Coast dress from a few seasons ago that I've only worn once, or a gorgeous white dress that I love, which is knee length and very summery, not at all wedding-y, from Gap.

I really dislike the bride to be honest, but I'm not going to let that cloud my judgement. Can I definitely not wear the white one? I think she'd think I'd worn it to annoy her.

BTW - couple are dh's friends from Uni - not friends of mine.

PJ if you joined FB we'd arrange it in front of your ample norks.

She sounds like an utter bitch PJ!

Wear the white dress

Dh says that its all 'insecurity', blah blah blah.

OK SOH, I have no idea what that means.

I bet it's all jealous on her part - Just looked at your profile page and you are gorgeous PJ.

One of my witnesses was going to wear cream to my wedding. I didn;t have a problems with that at all. Everyone else told her she shouldn't/couldn't so she didn;t in the end and instead wore red.

However, while she and my other female witness holding my posie were waiting in reception while the groom and I were seeing the deputy registrar for last minute payments etc the registrar appeared and went up to them and said 'You both look lovely today, are your family and witnesses here yet?'

She thought she was doing a same sex partnership thing and that they were both the bride

thanks AuntySocial, you've made my day! I'm clearly not, though.

I promise to wear the flowery one, and I will report back on how it all went next week. The theme is 'casual elegance', apparently. WTF???

My theme was get drunk, dance to Wham and enjoy yourself!!!

Have a fab time PJ

Facebook darling, Facebook then it wouldn't be behind your back, it'd be in front of your wedding dress-clad norks. Sheesh.

We haven't arranged anything. We're just trying to work out when MrSword is in the country as that's when it's doable.

And, yes, you're far too gorgeous but I already knew that.

Ok I would so go with the white now....

OOOOH Facebook, was just talking to Jam about that. I can't access it in work!

Bad form to wear white to wedding but if you mix it up with another colour you could get away with it. For example if you wore red shoes, cardigan, accessories etc.

at the theme. Our theme was get married and have a party.

Wear jeans and say your invitation was smudged, only said 'casual'.

Do your very best to talk loudly in an exaggerated form of your normal Scouse. Say 'la' at the end of everything. Mention Brookside a lot. She sounds a delight.

Do you know, I plan to be very charming and the life and soul of the wedding, that'll bug her much more. The best bit is this:

The venue they have chosen only allows for 20 people to be in the ceremonym, but requries 80 for the sit-down meal. Our invitation says 'Due to restrictions on numbers, we invite you to watch the ceremony on a live link up in the bar, and then join us for the meal'.

Dodgy spelling, ladies, I do apologise.

'We invite you to watch'? Does that mean you can watch something else instead cos I'd watch Saturday Kitchen.

Really, I may ask to watch Shipwrecked on T4. We were originally told we were in the exclusive '20' number, then the invitation arrived and we weren't! This was after I suggested during a meal out that she was a little rude to the very lovely waitress.

My BIL has an audition for Shipwrecked 2009. I don't know whether to be proud or concerned.

LOL at you not making the cut. Do take lots of photos of 'casual elegance' as I Need To Know What It Is.

Shall I lend you an outfit? Got some nice hemp stuff.

Thanks SOH, but I wouldn't dare imitate your personal style.

Shipwrecked is Fab! What a great way to waste a few months, 'meeting people and having fun'. They all describe themselves as 'MAD!!' Does BIL fit the bill of hunkiness?

I've never watched it. He is hunky I suppose. Looks like the cover of a men's health mag, all six pack and pecs. He's traditionally good looking, very friendly, travels the world in his purple VW camper so sounds right up his street. He's a top bloke. I'll tell you if he's going to be on it. You'll meet him when you visit anyway as between travels he stays at the ILs' and is around atm.

Oooh, he sounds lurvely.

i new mother of bride who wore white! perhaps that is ok?

it is probably old fashioned to say dont wear white tbh.

Why can't I find you on FB. Searched your RL name and your network and none of those 65 people that come up are you. Can you search for me? You do know my rl name?

I don't know your RL name!!!! Email me and send me it [email protected]

Or can you search using my maiden name - will it come up? Jenny Nicholas