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Casual wedding?!

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FatAmy123 · 20/09/2026 14:11

I’m going to a wedding celebration, the couple have already got married so I suppose this is the equivalent of their reception… but it’s not traditional, it’s at quite a cool bar (although they d hired it out) and it’s “casual” dress code. The groom is friends with dh and he just said “wear what you like”… which doesn’t help me! 😩

What shall I go for? I’m 5ft 5, size 18/20, slim limbs but big boobs and belly (on medication that has lead to weight gain) dark hair, suit warm autumn colours. I like to wear a wider or barrel trousers to balance out my smaller legs/no hips. I like a kind of sports luxe look if that means anything to anyone. Don’t like to dress “flattering” just because I’m plus size, I want to look a bit effortlessly cool if that’s at all possible 😂 I’m early 40s.

I need inspo on the whole shebang! Footwear, accessories etc but I do have some slouchy suede pointy boots with a kitten heel I love and a new leather chocolate brown funnel neck leather jacket. These are items I reckon I could work into an outfit.

i think I’m mostly struggling with wedding and casual… which seem like opposites to me!

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thedevilinablackdress · 20/09/2026 16:25

What would you wear for an evening out? Nice restaurant, few drinks. Wear that sort of thing.

butnotlikethatanymore · 20/09/2026 16:47

Something from Kai Collective? I rather like these trousers, which might go well with your jacket and boots:

https://kaicollective.com/collections/new-in/products/noore-parachute-logo-embroidered-trousers-denim?variant=45282199797943

butnotlikethatanymore · 20/09/2026 16:55

This is actually pretty, but only in a subversive way if worn with a non matching top (plus your boots)

https://estermanas.com/products/taupe-floral-asymmetric-skirt-copie?variant=54272533233932

FatAmy123 · 20/09/2026 18:05

butnotlikethatanymore · 20/09/2026 16:55

This is actually pretty, but only in a subversive way if worn with a non matching top (plus your boots)

https://estermanas.com/products/taupe-floral-asymmetric-skirt-copie?variant=54272533233932

Oooooo this skirt is gorgeous!!!

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butnotlikethatanymore · 20/09/2026 18:27

😅

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 21/09/2026 14:43

A satin skirt would be nice with your boots and leather jacket. Or satin wide legged trousers maybe?

FatAmy123 · 21/09/2026 19:12

Thank you for your suggestions.

I’m thinking slinky chocolate brown barrel legs trousers, my slouchy boots, a white cape top and statement earrings? The earrings are resin

Can wear my chocolate brown leather jacket and I’ve got a burgundy slouch clutch?

Casual wedding?!
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thedevilinablackdress · 21/09/2026 19:26

Lovely, that sounds ideal.

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