Botox- having a wobble.

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I’m 50
Appointment booked this afternoon.
Husband does not approve- talking about me “ruining” my face.

just want to look a bit fresher!

any advice? Tips?

Stop telling your husband

Edited to add: I don’t have Botox but I think it’s your choice and not your DH’s.

I would advise to start off very very low ml and only in 1 or 2 areas to see if you are ok with it or have any reactions. Very low dose - husband probably won’t even notice.

They will usually offer a “top up” in 2 weeks if you want or need it. So go for a little “baby Botox” and see how you get on! I don’t want to generalise but I don’t think men understand the differences between botox, filler, skin boosters, tear trough fillers and Katie Price half the time! It can be very subtle and give you a nice glow if you’re just having some light botox. And it’s not permanent!

Don't tell anyone and remember it's temporary (my youngest DS, who is 13, figured it out. But he notices everything. No one else did)

I’m 47 I’ve been having it for 3 years. I think it’s amazing I have 3 areas so brows eyes and lower forehead. Only one friend asked me and said it was because my forehead was nice and smooth. Everyone else I tell is baffled as they didn’t think I had it. But I often get aged lower than I am.
i started getting it because I asked a client about her skin routine as she just looked very well rested. She thought it was hilarious I didn’t know it was Botox!

But men’s reactions like this really grind my gears

Husband doesn't approve...where do you find these men? Fuck that.

I love a bit of botox. It makes me look much younger and doesnt ruin my face. My mother and sister think any surgery or injections are the work of satan so I just dont tell them. Im 64 by the way.
Last time they commented I just said Id been drinking masses of water and it really improved my skin 😂
Not sure how Ill excuse my facelift in autumn.

Almost 60 and been having it for past 2 years. Love it. My husband was originally the same as yours but I pointed out it was my face, my money and my decision!

My husband didn’t have a clue I’d had my eyebrows tattooed or my lip blush done despite the fact I’d came home with MASSIVE lips! Told him I was going for Botox and he asked why as I didn’t need it! I’d already been having it for 2 or 3 years by that point 🤣

if you have a good practitioner I think it looks very natural. I like the ladies I go to as they tell me no I don’t need that and they always go with less is more unlike my friends lady who will do everything she asks for regardless if she needs it or not.

Don’t tell your husband. Men never notice things like Botox anyway!

Had it first time at 53 and love the effect- makes me look less tired. Had it done as starting a new job and felt I looked tired and old looking. It’s given me more confidence!

I'm about to have it at 37 for my frown lines as they really get me down.
Husband has said I can take it out of savings if it makes me feel happier and more confident in myself.
Tell him to sod off

I'm all for not having Dh's approval for the procedure but Botox is quite expensive. I would expect my dh to consult me if he was going to spend our joint money on something so pointless.

Would you ask DH what mascara to use, or about face masks or the best hairdresser?

I’m guessing not!

He’s highly unlikely to be able to give you a useful answer other than a half baked opinion from seeing girls looking ridiculous on love island etc…

If you think it will work for you, give it a try! It wears off, it’s not plastic surgery or fillers.

Go for it. I have never regretted botox for a second. Ask for the Allergan original. Supplement it with Tretinoin cream from Monderma or Renew and Me to help smooth lines and extend results to four to five months.

Perhaps OP intends to spend her own money that she earns! You are allowed something of your own when married. Not everything has to be joint.

I'm with the husband, I really dislike how normalised tweakments are and rarely think it's an improvement. But if it makes you happy that's what matters.

We pool all our money. We notify each other if we want to spend over £200 on something because it's polite more than anything. My dh would never tell me no if I wanted something like this, but we have enough money to do that. If Botox means they can't make the mortgage payments that month or they'll have less money to spend on holiday then surely it is their joint business?

There’s literally nothing to suggest OP is booking Botox at the expense of her household being able to pay their mortgage, what a nonsense comment!

Yes exactly, so we don't know. Could be op is rolling in spare cash, could be she's spending the weekly shop money on frown freezing. My point was that there are situations when a DH's opinion on this would matter.

I don't think a lot of men would notice subtle botox to be honest. If you had it done without telling him, he probably wouldn't notice.

It is more obvious to women, when a women is over a certain age and there are no fine lines and a shiny forehead, it is a giveaway they have had some help, but most people wouldn't comment on it.

Well good for you. If you’re both happy with this then that’s great. It isn’t something that would suit me though. When I was married we each put a set amount into a joint account each month to cover household expenses and the rest was ours to do whatever we wanted with. Neither of us needed to ask the others approval before we spent our own money that we had each worked for.

It’s amazing. You won’t regret it. Your husband doesn’t know what he’s talking about and needs to pipe down.

He should feel grateful that he will get to look at a nice smooth forehead whilst you get to look at his wrinkly one.

I would listen to your inner wobble. But that's just because I think botox is a bad idea for everyone (other than those with a medical need).

Started getting mine at similar age. I don't have a frozen face just no 11 lines and softer crows feet. It isn't 'pointless' if you want it done.