Is this not special enough/expensive enough for my son's wedding?

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My son is getting married next year. June wedding. Someone on her recommended this dress for someone else. I went ahead and ordered it - a size smaller as that was all that was available. It has some weight to it and I love it but is it a bit cheapskate for mother of the groom. The money is not www.debenhams.com/product/jolie-moi-angel-sleeve-tiered-hem-maxi-dress_p-3e6c2c44-815f-42c7-b1db-67eae670cce8?colour=Multi&size=10&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22915808283&gbraid=0AAAAABevdS7lom0v68CypUOUtJ7wI713e&gclid=Cj0KCQjwio_RBhDMARIsAJPveNPX9QJHogyDX5JR4S_T4TALqJat6EcPACrQj2f_XntgPAeZTx04zrkaAnTFEALw_wcB

I can’t imagine anyone doing the school run in that dress!

IMO it’d be fine for all but the most extremely formal weddings.

I think it’s lovely.

If you still have reservations is there an option to hang on to it while you look for another perhaps more formal or long sleeved dress (if that’s what you are looking for)? Keep the tags on it and you could resell if necessary.

Only you know what the wedding will be like but it wouldn’t be smart enough even for a regular guest at some of the weddings I’ve been to.

Agree with the last point.

This one looks floaty and happy. I’m not a fan of those obviously MOB/MOG dresses at all personally.

I also find it a bit casual. I’d expect the parents to maybe make a little more effort, it’s not the cost; but I’d say it could be dressed up with heels, hat etc.

If you like the dress then wear it.
I think very structured body on dresses suit some people but not everyone
this dress could be done up with a hat and accessories but you could also wear it for parties and events after so it wouldn’t be a one hit wonder.

Perfect for a wedding

It's a really lovely dress and eminently suitable.

Unless you are going to keep the tags on, and leave them hanging outside the dress, then no-one will know what it cost.

I went to a very posh wedding a few years ago in a dress and jacket I bought from a charity shop. I got many, many compliments on the outfit. Best £20 I've ever spent on clothes I think.

It’s very pretty and appropriate. It’s very similar to a lot of the dresses in Rixo right now, which are very popular for weddings

I love it!

I like it, much better than more traditional "mother" outfits

I think it’s lovely. The last wedding I went too was very smart and loads of the guests were wearing this sort of thing (probably more £££ but they looked the same) very few hats either except on elderly relatives.

Also doing the school run in this sort of dress is a bit… something.

Looks lovely to me 😻. You could wear it with a colourful handbag and smart shoes and you'll look amazing.

I am probably out of step with many MNers but I think that dress is lovely, and a million times nicer than many of the MOB or MOG outfits I see recommended on here and which I wouldn't be seen dead in at any age. No-one is going to know how much it costs, unless they have one themselves, and the cost isn't the point anyway. If you like it and feel comfortable wearing it then go ahead.

Thanks everyone. Was thinking designer handbag with this will make it look more expensive. That's something I can use again. I've looked at more expensive options but I just keep coming back to this one. My DH and DS both thought it really suited me. For reference I bought the size 12 and I am 5' 8".

For those that think it’s casual, what would you suggest instead? I think it’s lovely and it’s an ideal choice. It suits OP so what else matters?

It's lovely. Who cares about the cost, it's how it fits that counts.

Cost doesn’t matter. It’s a lovely dress and perfectly suitable for a MOG.

I like it

Agreed.

When I got married, my tiara was £8 in a sale...Mum told me not to tell anyone!

Bloody hell! What a bitchy comment! And how weird to wear a floaty, chiffon maxi to ‘do the school run’…ffs! 🤣🤦‍♀️

OP…it’s a lovely dress…paired with a nice jacket, hat and some pretty jewellery, it will be perfect for a wedding (or a school run if you’re that way inclined 🤣)

I think it's fine, dressed up with the right accessories - shoes, bag, hat, jacket etc. You want to look good and feel confident, not like a trusted up turkey!

I think it's lovely, OP. You could always put a small jacket with it if you wanted.

When my DD got married I went into a store and asked for help, because I had no idea what to wear. I came away with something that was nothing like I'd have expected, but wasn't old for my age. Future weddings, I will do the same.

I've had a few Jolie Moi dresses and always loved them.

Wear it if you love it and feel good in it. That's all it boils down to at the end of the day.