Too white for a wedding?

[KookyOliveSwan]

I have 4 weddings to go to this summer, so I’m looking for a dress that I can wear to all of them.
I’ve fallen in love with this one, but is it too white/cream: https://www.theoutnet.com/en-gb/shop/product/zimmermann/dresses/midi-dresses/floral-print-lace-paneled-cotton-voile-midi-dress/46376663162888639

I wouldn’t choose white or cream accessories, and for the church wedding I’d wear a sage coloured jacket with it.

It definitely isn’t bridal, but is it still too white?

It really has. I first heard it as a child in the 80s from my mother and grandmother and aunt. I've seen it referenced in books and TV shows. I didn't know until MN showed me that so many people didn't know about this. I have no idea how they missed it.

Just wear another colour. It's not hard. Indian weddings are the same, only the bride wears red, and people all manage to just wear some other colour without complaining and finding it impossible and all that.

I think it’s too white.

Too pale. It’s someone’s special day in this case someone x 4 so I would not wear it. Brought up in the 70s so to never ruin the brides special day. Only ok if they said it was.

Exactly. It’s like everyone on mn thinks this was not a rule. It was and still is. I’d wear red to a white church wedding, not red to an Asian infused wedding and so on.

It’s lovely and perfectly suitable for a wedding.

Yes it has. Since before I was born and I’m in my 50s. My nanny would never in a million years have worn a bridal colour to a wedding, bless her.

I think it’s a lovely dress OP, and absolutely fine for any wedding.

I’m in the marriage is because you want to spend your life (hopefully!) with another person, not about who wears what. I’m happily divorced, but I always knew my bridesmaid was going to upstage me, because she is very beautiful, and I’m definitely not!

Even looking at the photos later, people always commented on how pretty she was, but didn’t say anything about me. I never got offended, I expected them to comment about her prettiness, because that’s how it is.

I would never have considered not having her as bridesmaid, we’ve been friends for nearly 50 years now, since Day 1 of secondary school.

Anyone who gets offended by another woman wearing white/cream to a wedding needs to get over themselves IMHO.

It’s so lovely @KookyOliveSwan . Wear it!

But would she have worn a pastel cotton dress with a floral print? I bet she has.

It’s lovely but it’s a cream dress. With lace. I just wouldn’t.

Pick another colour.

Doesn’t matter what the price is. Still a casual looking dress

The etiquette is not "don't be beautiful at a wedding", it's "don't wear white". If you are aware of the etiquette, and you do it anyway, you are willingly rude and disrespectful and that's not the bride's moral failing, whether or not it upsets her.

Like the Indian community, just wear another bloody colour without complaining and moralising. It's not hard.

No, “people” aren’t mad. There is a massive spectrum of colours to choose from yet for some reason, many wedding guests seem obsessed with being only able to find one dress in the whole world which just happens to be a shade of absolutely-not-white vanilla cream/palest buttermilk/lightest alabaster/fallen snow/ivory beige. Let the bride have her moment for god’s sake and be the only one in white if that’s what she wants.

Jeans, t-shirt and Birkenstocks and you'll be fine OP. Make sure they are all navy/black/red though.

I see nothing remotely bridal about this dress at all OP 🤣.

Thanks everyone, it seems contentious enough that I’ll just wear it to the 2 weddings where I’m close friends/family with the bride and know it will be fine. One sent it to me as a suggestion so I know she’ll be happy with it. The other is definitely honest enough to say if she wasn’t comfortable (and I’ll be wearing a jacket to that one).
It is a bit of a splurge, but it’s a treat for finally finishing my MSc (I’ll also wear it under my gown to graduation) and losing 3 stone of baby weight (so nothing I currently own fits!)

The other 2 weddings I’ll find something cheaper and safe (if anyone has any suggestions for under £100 or vinted links, then I’m open to ideas. I’m a size 8 and hourglass-ish)

It's absolutely beautiful. I think it's just about okay for a wedding as long as you have colourful accessories.

Perfect.

Yes I don’t get why people are trying to wear white cream all the time

this is four weddings - get another colour

nothing precious about it - bride wants to stand out it photos - perfectly fine

It’s far too white. Find another dress

It is mad because it doesn’t take away from the bride one iota.

It’s fine OP. You will look lovely!

Its beautiful and perfect for a wedding and with the jacket I cant even sum up a tiny amount of imagination to make me able to visualise it not being suitable.

I wouldn’t wear it personally

This 💯

It’s fine for a British Spring / Summer wedding, very pretty. You can easily accessorise with colours of your choice. Absolute American craziness that you can’t wear white or cream to a wedding. Nobody, for one second, is going to think you’re the bride!