Feeling unattractive after online rejection, how should I interpret it?

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Hello everyone,
I’m new here, my name is Lenka.
I have a bit of a problem and I’d really like to hear your perspective and opinion. I would appreciate it if you could be honest, direct, and kind.
So here it is:
Lately, I’ve been feeling like something might be wrong with me physically. On social media and friendship/dating platforms where I’ve sent requests, I’ve been rejected, and I don’t understand why. Is it because of how I look? Am I really unattractive, or how should I interpret this?
Thank you .
Here is my photo. I am 40 years old.

I'm absolutely socially awkward person ,It’s a good idea to meet people through hobbies.
I would try.

You're not unattractive at all, relax :).

If you're looking to make friends, then the bio is more important than the looks/picture. Friends won't care whether you're wearing black or pink, and whether your style is traditionally feminine or more utilitarian.

Put more info in your bio, what you like, what your interests are, that sort of thing. And even though I just said the looks are not important, a smile wouldn't hurt matters, as you do look a bit angry here :).

Just my two cents.

I think a natural photo looks more appealing than a posed one. Do you have any photos of you looking relaxed/ happy? Perhaps one that links to an interest or location that you mention in your blurb?

You are very attractive but the photo doesn't show any personality/ fun.

On the other hand I wouldn't assume that at all. I think you look interesting. If your blurb had shared interests I would be more interested than in a smiley photo.

I have to agree. I’m a lesbian and very good at spotting the difference between a straight woman with short hair and a lesbian but you had me fooled! You should be able to have your hair however you want and of course there’s nothing wrong with looking like a lesbian! But it might give people the wrong impression about what you’re after. Maybe you just need to be clearer that you’re only looking for friends, I’d hope most straight woman wouldn’t care if you were a lesbian or not and if you made it clear you were just looking for friends, wouldn’t assume you wanted to date them. Mind you, I get as a straight woman not wanting to look like a lesbian, just like I wouldn’t want to look like a straight woman

You look stern and humourless, though some of your comments here are witty so you obviously are not. Get someone to take a photo when you're watching a favourite comedy or enjoying some music. Your hair and clothes are fine.

I have to be honest that particular photo does give off lesbian vibes. And as others have said, the facial expression is not very welcoming. My photos look like mug shots so you photograph better than me 😁

Big smile, open expression and be fab. You're a pretty woman and beautiful eyes!
Good luck on the dating sites, hope there's a good one in there who is worthy of you. Don't let the rejection get you down, probably an arsehole anyway! :-)

Is this an ad?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You're beautiful with a lovely complexion. Put a smile on your face and wear something jolly.

Round by me I see social media posts where people facilitate meet ups for some who just want to hang out, have you tried that? Or there is an app, called ‘meet up’

It’s because people like what they like and everyone is different. Not everyone will fancy or be interested in you and that’s normal and ok. It’s the same for 99% of people (maybe not Sophia Veragara 😂).

You look fine, although a little miserable

I’m not only miserable in photos — I’m like that in real life too 😀
I post a nice picture to scare people away, and then I’m like… what the hell is wrong with people?
I put my best photo there, the one where I’m actually happy — it’s just not that visible.
Sure, lots of people want super interesting friends with hobbies, while my hobby is sitting in silence and secretly eating chocolate I hide from my kids and my husband…
Life is beautiful 🥲

I haven't read the thread but you are unusually pretty! I think a photo with you smiling would change everything. Also it's hard to look great in a selfie so if that is one, get someone to take a picture for you or set up a timer

So, you’re married and on dating websites, or are they just friendship websites?

Well that’s probably why then… you always look unhappy -even when you claim you’re happy - and you don’t have any social hobbies and you’re looking to cheat on your husband. I don’t see why you would think you look at all happy in a photo where your eyes look angry and your mouth is in a hard line instead of smiling.

Do you have mental health issues or neurodiversity at all? As your responses are unusual in tone and content.

OP - are you coming back?

I’m reading all the comments and I really appreciate your insight. This is exactly what I needed — an honest, objective opinion, not from friends or family. Thank you for your interest.

Why are you on dating platforms when you’re married with children 😯

Op you mention friendship, dating and online rejection but you are married with kids. Maybe it’s not clear what you are looking for and you are confusing everyone. Are you really looking for just a female friend as it doesn’t seem so from your op? Would a woman friend ‘reject’ you based on your photos?

Anyway I agree with others that you are very attractive but don’t look very happy or friendly.

meant friend-finding apps, not dating apps for looking for a man 😂 Jesus… I’ve had one for 21 years already, so I’m definitely not interested in finding another one elsewhere. Thank you for your opinion. And thank you for the kind compliment, I really appreciate it.

No I dont want dating men just friend female.

OP can you send us a photo of you smiling?

Honestly, I had to look again to see if you were a ‘butch’ woman or a ‘camp’ man. I do think you give off lesbian vibes now that you’ve said you’re a woman and look quite moody. If you’re generally happy and smiley then you need to show it (if you want attract similar friends). If I was looking for a friend I’d want someone who I felt I could have a laugh with and don’t take themselves too seriously. Obviously everyone’s not after that. But I’d swipe on.

Do I really look like a butch woman or a camp man? 😂 Okay… I don’t mind.
Butch women are great, I just really don’t want to confuse women around me, either in real life or online.
Great insight though.
But not every woman who has a butch style actually is butch 🤷 she just might look that way… who knows.