Is this outfit suitable for mother of the bride in May?

[darceysdaisies]

Is this suitable for mob for a May wedding? If so, what colour shoes/bag should I go for? I'd need something to cover my shoulders too.

https://www.johnlewis.com/adrianna-papell-embroidered-flutter-maxi-dress-navy-multi/p112256077

It’s not screaming traditional mother of the bride but depends on the type of wedding and if you like it. It is a nice dress though. You could maybe go for a neutral shoe or sandal that you might wear again or pick out a colour you like from the embroidered flowers and see if you can find shoes and bag in one of those colours maybe green or lilac.

The dress is beautiful but could easily be worn as a guest and not MOB as well.

It’s not screaming traditional mother of the bride

Why should it? Traditional mother of the bride stuff is horrid. I don't see why an M o B /G should wear it if they don't want to.

Is it suitable? I don't see any reason why not. Not a neutral shoe. Yellow, green or pink.

Could be flashing your knickers if it’s windy, would be my worry

I don't want traditional mob - they all look a bit stiff and frumpy to ne (apologies if this causes any offence to anyone). The wedding is at a country house hotel. I did think about the split but the dress will need to be altered so I will ask the seamstress to reduce it.
I'm really struggling to find something beautiful and not too out there that I will be comfortable in. My husband is wearing a dark green suit and I don't want to clash with him.

I don't like leg split dresses but what would put me off that dress isn't the split so much as it's an odd thing to do with a dress in that material and print.

It's as if the designer thought well this is a pretty dress, but it's a bit conservative so let's sexify it up by splitting the seam. I'd like it more with the seam sewn up, but that's just me. Presumably OP likes the split look. I wouldn't worry about it being windy. Even if it were the dress won't blow up that way as its quite fitted at that part of the body.

It’s lovely. Don’t cover the shoulders, that would spoil it.

I’d wear Esska sandals in a green to match green in the pattern.

The only thing that looks a bit, well not wedding-y regardless of your age - is the high split and you’ve already addressed that - otherwise it’s a beautiful and entirely appropriate choice - there is no need to stick to the formal block coloured, structured traditional mob outfit these days. Agree with neutral accessories, or pick out a colour.

Yay! I thought I was being too critical about the split, shortening it is a good idea.

Looks lovely but better without the split.

Those traditional MoB shiny dress and jacket ensembles are grimmer than a grim thing.

Great dress op. Hope it’s an awesome wedding

I like it! I find it a bit weird that people on here seem to think you’re not a proper MoB unless you’re wearing a stiff coat dress thing. No one wrote that in stone.

Personally, I would have found it very odd if my mum had worn a ‘traditional MoB outfit’ at my wedding as it would be so unlike her.

I agree. Don’t cover the shoulders, and love the sandals

The split I like, but might cause stress if there are to be outside photos etc, so that was all

If you are reducing the split then it’s lovely. Enjoy your day. I think green, lilac, silver or neutral sandals would work best.

Don’t the shoulder and don’t wear a jacket.

What does your daughter think? How will it look in the photos of the bridal party, bridesmaid and alongside the mother of the groom? Will the ceremony or photo be in the grounds? If so, be prepared in case it is cold or starts to rain.

Quoting myself but to be clear I am not a fan of traditional MOB/G attire, more with it being high street the chances of another guest wearing the same or similar are increased.

I think that's nice and very appropriate, agree with @AuntChippy shoes suggestion.

How will it look in the photos of the bridal party, bridesmaid and alongside the mother of the groom?
Do people really think of this. Sounds like a social media thing. Why would it matter what anyone else is wearing.

lovely dress , bit dark but if you go with bright accessories and reduce the split it could be ok

id check with what the other mother is wearing id not want to be too casual if she is going full on

Because you don't want to look like you haven’t made an effort - therefore possibly disapprove or start gossip when ficus should be in bride

you don't want to look out of place with the vibe that the bride and groom want at their do

What's wrong with the split? I love the split.

I think it’s lovely, but there aren’t many sizes left.

Nice. Very appropriate and much better than one of those knee length shift dress and jacket MoB ensembles that look dated by about 10 years.

Stitching up the slit might make the skirt less flowy or harder to move in. I’d be tempted to buy a very ordinary slip in navy, something like https://amzn.eu/d/0byQnSuS in whatever length you need to feel comfortable. I use similar for under a wrap skirt at work, to avoid accidentally flashing more thigh than I’d want without spoiling the movement of the skirt.

That’s sooo pretty !!!

I am about to be a mother of grown so have spent too many hours looking at dresses and I really like it . I think you will look lovely in it. The most important thing is you feel good in it