Is the top too white as a wedding guest dress?

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I love this dress, I have purchased it and feel happy in it but two questions:

1. Is the top too white to wear as a wedding guest?
2. Is it a bit ‘extra’ to wear anyway?

I’m starting to doubt myself and not sure if it’s because I rarely have the oppprtunity to dress up nicely or if the dress is just not suitable and should be returned?

I'm thinking of buying this from Next - Love & Roses x RHS Floral Metallic Embellished Neck Long Sleeve Midi Dress Dress

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"A set etiquette " sounds like it pertains to royal gatherings and debutante balls.

It's certainly not a set etiquette in Scotland or at any weddings I attend.

I must be as common as muck.

Great photos!!

Very common for women to wear black in French weddings. My MIL wore black and red to our wedding - no one fainted away!

I went to a wedding in Austria once and nearly all the women wore black, navy or dark grey - I felt like pretty much the only one in colour wearing green.

NB it was Napoleon’s wife Eugenie who wore white for her wedding first apparently - copied thereafter by Victoria.

When did I ever say I hadn’t heard of it?

Congrats on missing the point.

It’s common to wear black at any wedding these days, that’s gone out the window.

As it goes, I was told off by the queen of Denmark’s late French husband for wearing black to a wedding in SW France. Veteran of #ambassador you are spoiling us Eurotrash weddings. 🤣

Victoria married around 10 years before Eugenie.

When did I ever say I meant you?

However, same goes. You think it's a new thing born of the internet age and it simply on point of fact is not.

Can someone explain why people are so resistant to the fact that it's a very longstanding etiquette?

Well you were talking to me.

They’re just explaining that it’s not long term etiquette, which essentially filters down from high society, and you’re not listening.

Have I been living under a rock for the last decade? What’s all this not wearing a speck of white as a wedding guest or asking the bride if your outfit is ok?

The eras of my friends’ weddings were admittedly many years ago, but I can’t recall the choice of a guest’s outfit being the subject of such close scrutiny, and I’m pretty sure no guest ever asked for the bride’s approval of what they planned to wear. I’d assume the bride had enough to think about with her own dress to be worrying about what her guests are going to show up in 😂

But it is long term etiquette. I heard about it as a child almost 40 years ago, so did many others, it's in cultural references, my grandmothers knew about it. Honestly don't know how some people never heard of it, but clearly they didn't... it's still a long term thing.

Anyway I'm not going to get into a flame war over it, it's an innocuous thread (sorry, OP). There are some things I guess I'll never know, and the reasons for people's refusal to accept that it's a very longstanding etiquette not to wear white as a wedding guest, far predating internet culture, will just have to remain among them.

Sums it up perfectly.

My XMiL had some odd "traditions" and supposed etiquette that I'd never heard of and couldn't accept that because I was from somewhere different I'd never heard of them and they weren't important.

Same with this no white nonsense.

As I explained, etiquette comes from the top down historically. It was certainly not a high society rule even 40 years ago. Rigid rules like this are the hallmark of bourgeois.

I don't know why you're talking about high society.

I don't know how people older than I am have never heard of this.

I don't know why you think it was created in internet culture.

I don't know why so many people are so very very resistant to the fact that this is a very longstanding etiquette. I can make a guess but I think it would piss people off even more than they already seem to be. It would explain absolutely everything though.

Sorry for my part in this, OP. I won't stir it any further. It was a totally innocent thread. Oh, internet.

Maybe high society weddings have more brides in full traditional bridal couture, so unlikely to be remotely similar to a guest? Whereas a 'bourgeois' wedding might have a bride in a Phase Eight dress?

Even if Kate wears white to other people's weddings, I still think it's nicer to leave one colour just for the bride even if that makes me common.

Why? It's not a bridal gown, it's a cotton day dress!

I went to dozens of weddings around the time, people wore similar things and there were no comments about inappropriate outfits.

If it is a long-standing etiquette rule then it's one that is good to ignore.

it’s fine