Is the top too white as a wedding guest dress?

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I love this dress, I have purchased it and feel happy in it but two questions:

1. Is the top too white to wear as a wedding guest?
2. Is it a bit ‘extra’ to wear anyway?

I’m starting to doubt myself and not sure if it’s because I rarely have the oppprtunity to dress up nicely or if the dress is just not suitable and should be returned?

I'm thinking of buying this from Next - Love & Roses x RHS Floral Metallic Embellished Neck Long Sleeve Midi Dress Dress

Perhaps you didn't, but some brides will. I expect most will, because they don't want to be bridezillas and now they know this is what someone wants to wear.

There are loads of lovely dresses around right now that are very similar to that one, just more solidly coloured; I'd play it safe and find another.

But you would remember if someone wore white or something bridal.

I think it’s lovely and would be absolutely fine.

I think it would be perfect. I am over 60 and it would not cross my mind that it looked bridal - maybe because it doesn’t. Wear it and enjoy!

It’s lovely and not remotely bridal? Any bride who takes issue with this is bridezilla on speed!

The only time I’ve ever thought a guest was dressed like a bride at a wedding was when they were. The wedding had been arranged very quickly for the week before the groom’s sister’s wedding which had been two years in the planning. The sister was really annoyed.
The bride was quite casual in a colourful dress and the grooms sister’s wore a long white maxi dress with a crystal halter neck and a tiara. Loads people on FB were congratulating the sister when they saw the photographs.

Any other dress is fine. I’ve worn a white dress with black flowers on a white skirt and an colourful top and multiple black and other coloured dresses to weddings. Nobody batted an eyelid.

How on earth does this look like a wedding dress??
if a bride wears a pink blue and yellow dress I’d say it’s her who has got it wrong, not the guest. If a bride move from traditional wedding dresses then it’s 100% on her if a guest wears something similar

It’s the law on such threads that even if the proposed guest outfit is dungarees with not the bride on the front someone will say it looks like a wedding dress. Some people must’ve been mind blown when they saw Pippa Middleton as a bridesmaid.

😂

It’s absolutely fine for a wedding. I definitely wouldn’t ask the bride about the dress though, she’ll have enough on her mind about the big day without added nonsense on top

Thanks all, I think I’ve decided to send it back. If I’m worrying about it now then I think it’s best to look for something else whilst I still have the time to sort it out!

I’m older. I wasn’t aware that wearing white to a wedding was taboo until I read MN, though I obviously wouldn’t have worn anything that looked like a wedding dress. I think this dress is fine.

It’s only become a thing in the past 20 years. Before that it was fairly obvious how to avoid committing the dressing-like-a-bride faux pas: you didn’t wear a fecking bridal gown!

Now because some brides want to dress non-traditionally, people tie themselves in knots making up extended wedding guest outfit rules “just in case”. I’ve worked out that the only outfit any female wedding guest can really feel safe in is a mid length floral tea dress.

It’s fine. Only precious and uptight people get upset by this kind of thing. If people can’t recognise the difference between you and the bride, they shouldn’t be at the wedding. It’s not a wedding dress.

If a bride chooses to wear a dress remotely similar to that, she has only herself to blame when guests turn up similarly attired. Because it has wedding guest written all over it. And it’s lovely.

Which is more or less what the OP posted!

Well it’s pink. So no.
It looks a bit synthetic and hot though.

It’s lovely and perfectly fine to wear to a wedding. Mind you I am not in the MN-it’s-too-white brigade, lol.

She was a member of the wedding party and it's safe to say the bride approved her dress. None of the guests wore white or mostly or largely white from what I recall.

It wasn't the dress that upstaged Kate anyway, it was Pippa's bum. And Princess Beatrice's Cthulu hat.

I knew as soon as I posted that comment there’d be a Royal Correspondent along to say something about it.
🏅 to ThatCyanCat

Eh? Royal Correspondent? You brought it up, not me. And yeah, she was the bridesmaid so the bride always had full approval. That's true for any wedding. Actually I thought that was so obvious it made your post a bit silly but I didn't want to be rude.

I wouldn’t wear it.

not because it looks bridal - it doesn’t - but because

i) guests wearing white doesn’t look good in photos

ii) you spend a lot of time at weddings sitting down or standing behind people which means you tend to be seen from the waist up and this dress is pretty much entirely white on top

iii) there will be a good proportion of guests who will think you’re dressed inappropriately and/or hate the bride

If I saw anyone wearing a dress that had a white top at a wedding I wouldn't think they had dressed inappropriately or that they hate the bride.

Nor would anyone I know.

What a bizarre notion 😅

It’s not a MN thing, not even just a UK thing (I wasn’t born here )

OP wise decision, you don’t want to be that person

enjoy your shopping x

What a bizarre notion

@RaraRachael only bizarre if you have never read a MN “is this too white for a wedding” thread