Old lady clothes

[Lifelover16]

I am an old lady, mid 60s and I’m lucky to still be here.
I still try to take an interest in my appearance but have lost my way. I don’t have a massive budget. Please could someone help with which styles will emphasise my old lady looks so I can avoid them?
Thank you

I've only used them mail order but if you happen to live anywhere close to them I think they would be a great location to visit and get some help. I follow them on social media and they sound lovely.

Good luck with your shopping, make yourself smile x

I've only used them mail order but if you happen to live anywhere close to them I think they would be a great location to visit and get some help. I follow them on social media and they sound lovely.

Good luck with your shopping, make yourself smile x

Some of us suit high necklines though.

Ive got a long neck and broad shoulders. I love high necks, they’re really flattering.

This thread just shows that there are no answers. Wear what’s comfortable.

What a bizarre reply! What on Earth does your DD being tall, thin and toned have to do with the OP?

@RollyPollyBatFace that looks fabulous! Thank you for posting

@Sparklesandspandexgallore what a weirdo. Nobody cares about your DD and her style and figure. Where is the relevance?

I was going to ask if she managed to shoehorn comments about her marvellous DD into every comment :)

@Sparklesandspandexgallore No I don’t want to dress like a 20 year old, those days are long gone. Nor do I want to wear any of the items in your user name thank you.

Zara is my go to.
Wide leg jeans, boots with a small heel, boxy jacket (fake fur) classy accessories, less is more.
Clothes with a good cut, leather belt with the jeans, good hair and makeup.

I also think chunky boots are are on the way out.

Pointy toes are more modern.

I am mid sixties and thankfully I have good health. I am currently wearing wide leg jeans and trousers with semi fitted tops and fairisle or strong coloured jumpers with Chelsea boots. Last summer I was very in to jumpsuits. I doubt that I am the hight of fashion but I wear what suits my body shape and what I think suits me. You do you and be confident. If you are confident you can carry of pretty much anything.

I’m in my mid 60s and I’m not an “old lady”. Maybe you struggle with your style because you think of yourself like that. I am sorry to hear that you have a life limiting illness. That is horrible. It doesn’t make you an old lady though.

Wear what you enjoy wearing. Have a look at some decent shops (for me that is Arket, Cos, Other Stories and for some items Hush). M&S have a pretty good variety of styles these days. I like Scandi style. Take the time to find your look and don’t worry about whether or not it’s suitable for an ‘old lady’.

Another vote for Robel trousers. I like the flat waistband. I have loads of their v black jeans with turn ups. The 3/4 length is actually ankle length for me. The trousers come in different cuts. I buy Bella but there is the Marie which has skinnier calves. Independent high street shops might have them, so you can try on. Their sales must be due soon.

I have mustard and hot pink trainer type shoes in suede by Gabor. Matching socks.

Charity shops are a good source of casual jackets. I have canvas, cord and denim jackets. I find them more forgiving than cardigans on my apple shaped tum.

I aim for a pop of colour to balance my muted basics.

Lots of long sleeve cotton t shirts as my base layer.

I like seasalt (sign up online to access the regular membership sales). White Stuff. Woolovers.
Given up on M and S. Too boxy and cheap fabric.

Its hard finding clothes that I like as the 1980s didn't suit me first time round and I dont need a work wardrobe anymore.
Not sure Ive answered your question but good luck and you have some good responses. 😎

Edit we are the same age. ❤️

This is one of the few occasions where a personal shopper could be of real assistance. They can help define a style based on your lifestyle, limitations, age and shape and should help create a capsule of basics.
They can be booked at larger departments stores and budget can be discussed. You are usually under no obligation to buy what they suggest, but a long term relationship can really help build a good wardrobe just with a couple of updates during the year.

I'm 73, in remission with only one boob and have sussed out what works for me. I wear wide-legged jeans or jersey elasticated trousers (M&S), tops are soft jumpers in burgundy/olive/khaki/cream with a tee or shirt under (bright pink works well) - I try and get shorter boxy jumpers and let the underneath hang longer (disguises tummy etc). Ankle boots, clumpy with a thick sole or bright trainers. I've got a couple of midi pleated skirts that hang well but it's usually trousers. I find picking the colours and shape most important and often wear one-colour outfits - H&M have a great selection of burgundy/dark red which coordinate well. I hope some of this is useful! Oh, and be comfy!!

@NotInMyyName I love Robell Bella too, they are so comfy. They don't do Bella with a fleecy lining unfortunately so I had to go for a different style which doesn't have pockets on the bum. I prefer Bella with it's pockets but for this time of year I ❤️ fleece lined 🤣

Have you tried looking on instagram/pinterest for inspiration. I love theSilverkat - dressed down but stylish. Once you start following someone whose style you like the algorithm will direct similar content to you. Also just one item can give you an 'update'. II recently got a pair of barrel trousers that have transformed my very dated wardrobe because none of my other clothes went with them so I had to get some new tops - I feel a lot more contemporary now (at 59) than I have for years. Just in time for the fashions to change again....

Very useful, thank you @Lifestooshort71 for responding.
ill have a look at H &M, burgundy is a lovely colour.
Where do you get your bright trainers from please? (Don’t worry if you don’t have time to reply.)
pleased you are in remission , long may it continue.

You’re not an ‘old lady’.

Just look at what is being featured in magazines and on the street as the ‘in’ colours or styles of the day. You then extract what will work for you and ignore what doesn’t or that you really dislike. Make sure to try things on in shops. You need to stay ‘open’ to new things or styles and see if they suit you.

For example, although pussy bow blouses are in again seemingly, I avoid them because I’d look like Margaret Thatcher in them (!) and not cute like the 20 year olds in my office. I hate brown which is the big colour this winter, but found a lovely tailored tweedy black with flecks brown and cream and caramel collar jacket that I can wear with what I have.

More mature women often look better with a little tailoring so long as cut in right place. Avoid high necks. Avoid very short skirts - generally midi more flattering and less dated at the moment. Boots are your friend. Knee length well cut boots can be comfy and flattering with dresses and skirts - Dune have nice suede ones. Ankle or cowboy boots in honey or beige or tan suede can be worn if well cut with dresses in spring and even into (British) summer.

H & M is fab - I agree with previous poster. And not all their good stuff shows up online. Many of their styles cuts and fabrics are the same or superior to other middle aged mid priced high street favourites like Mint Velvet and Phase Eight!

I have read more closely and see that you are ill. I should have added that the most important thing is not how the clothes you pick look on you, but how they make you feel. Choose colours and feels that make you happy. I love my black long slimline quilted coat from cheap brand because it has lovely felt lined pockets that feel nice on my hands on cold days - it’s not the most flattering, but I don’t care. Look after yourself.

What about beautiful pyjama wear type things? I’m not suggesting you go out in real PJs but the many similar styled sets that are available just now? Don’t discount ‘ young shops’ like River Island. An elegant 50 year old I know bought two pairs of trousers and matching tops from them recently and they look great. I’ve noticed that their cotton in the summer is also nice - often from commonwealth countries and not China.

This.

People suggest shops on here. But l find getting stuff from random shops can be helpful. I find Rivwr Island quite good but hated it when l was younger, I’d avoid most of the stuff from there though.

Its not about dressing from Seasalt or whatever. It’s about finding the right items and these can be in cheap or expensive or more importantly unexpected shops.

I quite like the quality of Superdry. But is only buy basics and unpick the external labels.

I'm a similar age. Keep an eye out for people looking good. I copy people whose style I admire and avoid the Iooks of friends who look frumpy. So eg. whereas I used to wear a dog-walking jacket from Millets, now I wear one from Protected Species that makes me feel fabulous.

Also you could go to a Personal Shopper in one of the big department stores. My DD used to do that job and she would've given you loads of ideas. You're not obliged to buy.

Thank you, I live near the Galleria in Hatfield and they have a couple of outlet shoe shops - I can't buy online (how do people do that?!). Good luck 💐