Mulberry Crossbody Bags - why do so many women have them?

[LucyLoo1972]

I have never had a nice handbag denote being in an elite profession. I have noticed lots of women where I live have Mulberry crossbody bags. I looked them up and was so shocked at the price tag!! the women I see wearing them dont always look like they are filthy rich so I am intrigued as to why they spend so much on a handbag. Sorry if this is a weird question. Maybe its me becasue we have plenty of money but my husband would go batshit crazy if I said id like one of these and wanted to buy one.

Doubtful - these bags can easily be purchased online in JL, Selfridges etc so image the huge quantities that are being sold.

its been very hard becasue it was my academic work that triggered my breakdwon for soem very specific reasons .I loved t so very vey much and it was my purpose in life but I was critiquing my own conservative religious community and it was emotionally very difficult and the owrk was on a sensitive area.
I tried ot go back to it for a year but it was not a good years as I lost my mum and my father in law and was trying to care form mother in law with dementia.

thanks yes. thats a good idea.this is just the tip of the iceberg sadly .the reason I blame yselfso much is becasue I allowed this behaviour and didnt need to. it was my money too. but the bag is the least of the thigns he withheld form me.

Fuck the handbag, get a shit hot solicitor and get rid of the cause of your misery.

How would he react if you purchased the handbag now? It’s okay for us all to say “fuck it! By the bag!” But that might not be the right choice in your reality. I think the focus needs to be finding a way out of your marriage.

It sounds to me as if the husband you have is the problem, not the lack of a handbag! I would not let my husband control my spending and he would never do that anyway.

everythign is so bad now. I do buy myself nicer thigns now but life is so very desperate for me now. I didnt see what as going on. he was very gentle and kind befroe even if he went a generous perosn.

this ws the least of it really but I allowed it. id acheived so much in life and it all got taken from me. I gave everythign to my marriage too and it is now horrifically broken.

do you really think its that bad? things are really bad between us becsue my husband did not cope at all wit me getting unwell and then it has been hard after becasue I held him partly responsible for causing me the levels of stress that contributed to my becoming so unwell.

This thread isn't really about handbags. I do have a Mulberry bag, and rate it far more than my Radleys. But on reading the thread you seem deeply unhappy about several aspects of your life. The bag isn't the root issue here.

No idea, I think they are ugly and quite plain personally. I have some designer bags but I think there are much nicer ones from other designers.

I think a lot of people buy them from Turkey

yes - you are right. and the bag was the smallest part of it. I allowed myself whole life ot be taken from me beaucse I didnt see my worth and it meant I couldnt ask for what I needed or even spend what was rightfully mine in ay case. I used to be so happy and fulfilled in ym life and work and im a shell now na. yes I am deeply unhappy about so much in my life now and this is the tiniest part.

You need to rethink your marriage (and also a Mulberry handbag)!

im kind of trapped now becsue im so unwell. I see no way out. I loved him so very much and still do love him despite all the stress he has caused me. its my fault for not exerting my own agency and communicating more clearly iwth him what I need.

If you have plenty of money and work in an elite profession just buy whatever you want. I'd be more concerned that you have a husband who reacts badly to your purchases than your handbag bill. I love the mini Alexa as it can be worn cross body and the strap can be removed to use as a top handle. I find them very versatile. Also love the Chloe Marcie as a cross body. My husband loves the bag department at Selfridges as he doesn't have to spend ages trekking round looking for presents and the service is great. I suggest you get your husband down there as it's Christmas soon. If he goes "batshit" you might be with the wrong man.

Sorry OP just read your other comments and realise you're having a very difficult time. Sending a hug.

Have you thought about counselling or therapy to help you?

I have a small Amberley for day time and I also have a Lily which I take for nights out. They’re both in black though, so I’d like a light colour as well. They’re very good bags and mine have lasted years. Men don’t really understand handbags, but he should want you to be happy - and sometimes that’s a handbag.

Mate, get on Relationships. It may be that your DH is actually making you more ill. Finding space from him may actually improve your MH.

I've got two, both second hand/nearly new and I love them. They are really durable, practical, well made bags (older ones so I can't comment on the quality of the current new ones). I've got several different brands but the Mulberry ones are the ones I use most of all.

ah thank you. ive been in every type of theory for eight years since my breakdwon. its horrible how mentally unwell I am when I was so full of life before.

honestly, this is only the smallest part of it but I loved hims so very much and I thought he loved and protected me. I ahd a ton of childhood trauma which was probably underlying m breakdwon but also underlying why I didnt value myself and my own needs enough.

Sadly not all their bags are still manufactured in Somerset, half of them are now made overseas, but yes, historically a quintessential English brand. I have a small horseshoe shaped cross body from 30 years ago which is going strong. Definitely quality.

This isn’t about the bag, it’s about your husband and that you aren’t happy.

I have an Amberly and a mini Alexa from Mulberry. I’m a high earner and bought them myself. I’m not interested in DH’s opinions on bags and it came from my own allotted fun money not like I didn’t contribute fully to our household accounts and savings.