What does everyone think of grey hair?

[SilverDoublet]

Over the last 2 years I grew out my hair, it's quite grey but I just couldn't handle the regrowth reappearing every 3 weeks and didn't have time or money to deal with it. My hair was quite dark so I had been dying it dark brown. But now it's pure white in places, salt and pepper on top and still dark underneath. I asked a hair dresser if I should go blonde to hide regrowth but she said Im too dark. And I can't stand the regrowth with brunette. What do people think of grey? Or what does everyone else with hair like this do? I'm 45, don't like looking so old...

Exactly!!! People don’t look older necessarily with natural greys. They look like the same person with a different coloured hair. People I know have a wonderful attitude to aging. It doesn’t equal ‘less attractive’. Just differently attractive. Often once tget stopped trying to create something with hair colour they discovered a whole new aesthetic that suits them more and therefore they actually look more attractive.

I do accept this isn’t everyone’s approach. But people shouldn’t compare regularly cut, styled and groomed women who colour their hair with women who do nothing to themselves with grey hair.

grey hair treated with the same grooming care as coloured hair looks phenomenal.

I'm not a fan of grey -unless you are pure white- a friend who is very beautiful grew hers out in her early 40s - she looked like a stunning 60 year old - she reverted to dying after a year.
I have another new friend who is grey I often think she'd be prettier with colour.

You stated that people who don’t value their appearance don’t wear make up and don’t colour their hair. Most men over 45 do not weak make up and don’t colour their hair, so following your logic they don’t care about their appearance.
of course what you actually mean is that women who don’t do these things don’t care about their appearance and this is the double standard.

I’d love to know if you __ live near me. How on earth do I find such a hairdresser? Attempts have largely failed so far!

My hairdresser is in SW London. £180 every six to seven weeks. I have what she thinks is needed and completely trust her. She's been my hairdresser for 25 years.

Your logic is flawed and that's not what the other poster meant at all.

I’m 48 and last dyed my hair at the end of October 2024. I’ve been dying my hair blonde for more years than I care to remember. I have about 5 inches of regrowth and the rest is still blonde. I have had about 10 inches cut off so far but I’m not brave enough to go shorter just yet so I’m having to just deal with it.

What I have noticed though is the regrowth is in a much, much better condition; it’s softer and smoother. Having said that, a combination of grey/white regrowth on top and menopause has left me with frizzy, wispy bits which I’m not happy about but again, another thing I have to just deal with and clip them back when they get too much.

I am experimenting with various different semi permanent colour shampoos but as I’ve got blonde, mousey brown and salt/pepper, it’s never going to go one colour.

Of course, the advantage of being post menopausal is that I don’t give a shit what other people think. It’s my hair, my problem. If you’ve got a problem with my hair then that’s a you thing!

I’ve just been out shopping and was having a good look at everyone with grey hair after reading this thread. I don’t think I saw a single woman whose grey hair looked wrong on them. A few with obvious box dyes that looked quite harsh and unnatural but that was it.

My hair is quite red so I’m fading rather than going grey. I have lighter red highlights with a few really quite blonde strands but the majority of it is still pretty dark. Annoying really as my mum has lovely white hair which is exactly what I want.

I have another new friend who is grey I often think she'd be prettier with colour.

Ah, because of course, being 'pretty' is what really matters most here, isnt it?

I often think I'm glad to have mature, well-rounded, supportive friendships with people who couldn't give two shits about the colour of my hair.

What a ridiculous comment. I pay because she provides a service I want and to an exceptionally high standard. How she spends her money is irrelevant to me but I have been to her house and it's lovely. I am pleased it is because she is a very hard working businesswoman with excellent skills, who puts in a nine or ten hour day six days a week and is on her feet all day working very hard.

Once she has paid for the products she uses, paid the rent on her premises, the business rates, utilities, commuting costs, etc., I imagine she makes a reasonable but modest profit, as she ought to do. She also will have no paid holiday, no paid sick leave, no Employer's contributions on a pension.

I treasure her and am lucky she is my hairdresser and has become my friend. I have different skills, earn far more and have a much less strenuous and more cushy deal at work.

I’m nearly 60 , never coloured / highlighted my hair which is blonde and it’s gradually gone a grey blond and I get heaps of compliments about the colour , with many people thinking I have it coloured . My daughter is hoping that her hair goes the same way .

Not sure the relevance of the Indonesian translation? Do please enlighten me.

Wtf? Reported.

If I were blessed with your hair, I wouldn't colour either. Lucky you.

My logic is flawed…?
what about the assumption that caring about your appearance means colouring your hair? Two statements from the post:
…..some people don’t care about their appearance…
…these people won’t colour their hair …
ie if you don’t colour your hair you don’t care about your appearance.

Anyone struggling with patchy darker bits, dry shampoo is your new friend.

It varies from person to person. MIL doesn't colour or style her hair, has allowed her teeth to crumble, doesn't care about clothes. Mother coloured her hair, kept her teeth perfect, wore beautiful, stylish clothes.

I know people with grey hair who have highlights to make it a sparkly, light grey. I know people with well coloured hair who aren't very stylish, I know people with grey hair who are very stylish.

i’m 58 took 2 years to grow out all my colour then had my hair cut short. Now have my natural grey hair which looks very cool up in a quiff with shaved sides. I love it.

Oh good Lord you know you can take two abstract statements from any piece of writing and make it fit your rhetoric.

just accept you misunderstood. Others understood perfectly well. Perhaps if you read entire posts instead of isolated phrases and then coming up with an interpretation you might be able to converse better.

Just being helpful. The poster seemed to struggle to understand a post written in English so I thought I’d try some other language.

Those are your statements from your post, not abstract statements from any piece of writing.

I managed to understand exactly what she meant.

How uncanny, but you are absolutely spot on with all of that @FirstSheIsWise including the compliments from my dad to me!