Can I wear this to a wedding?

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https://lucyandyak.com/products/freddie-trousers-organic-cotton-linen-black?variant=39961061392487

I'm not usually a Lucy and Yak person, but I have just got these trousers and shirt and love them. Can I wear them to a wedding with my shiny new Birkenstocks (maybe with shirt open and a colourful vest underneath)? Or is it kind of rude to wear black like this??

TIA

PS I just asked DH, and he said "I like that outfit on you, but if you wear it to a wedding you'll look like you're on day release". So you lot and DH are on the same page, it turns out 😆

Are you serious?

I love Lucy and Yak but would also say no. Black seems very heavy and it feels a bit casual. And def no to the gorgeous sounding silver birks, soz! Could a ragan work perhaps?? https://lucyandyak.com/products/ragan-cotton-jumpsuit-in-island-blooms-scribbled-floral-print?_pos=4&_sid=f7b502e3c&_ss=r

And these shoes https://esskashoes.com/products/olivia-lemon?variant=54845387211125&source=aw&sv1=affiliate&sv_campaign_id=1464636&awc=78134_1750028871_895aad13a85b4f610fb28251d3d9b7a8

I also love L&Y, and would absolutely wear both the top and trousers, but not together! Gives a feel of medical scrubs to me 😂
The trousers with your silver birkenstocks and a smarter shirt I could go with

In general, Black trousers are fine, flats are fine, you just need to dress them up with a flamboyant top, or a well fitting black top and some statement accessories.

If you want to buy something new, maybe look at jumpsuits, or if you want to splurge go for a tux and wear with a bra.

Excellent trousers, terrible idea.

I write as a woman who just came off a bus in pyjamas, so my boundaries are as elastic as my waistband. Oof. Lovely.

There comes a point where not making the effort looks rude, and those trousers are spot on it.

Part of being a functioning human is acknowledging others and the greater good, and you’re dressing a bit for that at a wedding, not just for you.

You won’t look like a guest and no one will offer you a drink.

Fair enough.

I've never been able to relate to wanting people to look any certain way at a wedding (at mine, I just wanted people to wear what they wanted - I truly would have been happy with people in tracksuits if that's how they felt best), but I realise that this doesn't mean others have to feel the same. So I will play the game, and respect the "no" I have been handed!

Enjoy those trousers every day! Put them in the wash on wedding day!!

Get another pair now before they sell out.

Nb charity shops are brilliant for smart wedding stuff. Spend real money on fine trousers.

Wedding or Pj party? 🙈

I understand the desire. Freddie's are SO comfortable with the most perfectly deep side pockets ever. And I know the vibe is casual but they are somewhat tailored. I think that is probably lost in the black though. You could consider a Freddie "suit" in one of the colours or prints?

I have them in a discontinued print and I have the matching shirt. I'd love to wear them together but think I'm too tall to get away with it. If I was short it would look great.

This is a brilliant post, and you have articulated how I think far better than I would have done.

It isn't about being a sheep but about meeting expectations.

At my wedding a friend wore some striped jeans. I did fleetingly think "I have made an effort today, why couldn't you?" , but it wasn't important in the grand scheme of things really.

The thing is, OP that your original choice could/would look like you hadn't made an effort. You coming on here on a long thread to discuss your outfit shows that you really are making an effort to get it right, so you will have to be more flexible about what you wear. i really would give up the black trousers (unsuitable even they were a gorgeous fabric and beautifully cut) and give up the berks idea. Jump suit (not cotton) if you don't want a skirt or dress, or as a minimum with trousers, some gorgeous heavily patterned wide ones (used to be called palazzo trousers) that make a statement about luxe and glamour. Everyday utility clothes just don't cut it for a guest.
Enjoy wearing something different from your usual!🙂