Can I wear this to a wedding?

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https://lucyandyak.com/products/freddie-trousers-organic-cotton-linen-black?variant=39961061392487

I'm not usually a Lucy and Yak person, but I have just got these trousers and shirt and love them. Can I wear them to a wedding with my shiny new Birkenstocks (maybe with shirt open and a colourful vest underneath)? Or is it kind of rude to wear black like this??

TIA

No and no to wearing Birkenstocks!

Unless it’s a couple of Crusty tree hugging types.

I wouldn't wear that outfit to put out the bins, but I realise we all like different things! I definitely wouldn't wear it to a wedding though - sorry.

I had a formal wedding. One friend turned up in something like this. She really did stand out, and to be honest, it did bother me a bit - it felt like she hadn't made any effort. She admitted afterwards that she had chosen that outfit because she assumed my wedding wouldn't be formal (without asking me or checking the invite...).

It's nice comfy looking outfit but it does have the look of PJs about it so it's a total no no from me for a wedding. You'll feel really uncomfortable amongst all the summer dresses.

There is loads of linen in the shops at the moment you should be able to find a simple dress.

No, looks like what a mechanic wears. That said some weddings extremely casual now

So fit and materials make all the difference. You can wear trousers, jacket, vest and sandals to a wedding. BUT not those - it looks like something you would wear to WFH or do the schoool run in.

Instead look for fittted, high waist wide leg trousers in a smarter cotton twill, a silky vest in a nice rich colour or perhalps a bold pattern (deep green or pink would look nice). Then a Chanel style boxy jacket or knittet jacket. Shoes - you can get some nice metallic leather flat sandals - look at Clarks or M&S.

Can you work around your silk shirts? Pick the one you like best and invest in some fitted trousers that match or tone with it. FWIW, I have worn two silk shirts, the more close fitting under the other open like a jacket. With some big jewellery it does look smart and interesting. If the shirt was bright and the trousers coloured, you could get away with the black jacket ( living in hope that you won’t need to wear it indoors.

Can you sew at all? Replacing the buttons on jackets can really alter them, if you had some elaborate buttons which also matched to your shirt, it would elevate things. EBay has good vintage buttons.

@Allthegoodnamesarechosen those are very interesting ideas about changing buttons and layering silk. I'm feeling inspired!

Really appreciated, and have noted, all the messages and ideas here - thank you.

You've also given me a good laugh (insulting my outfit!) - I shall make sure to dress it up a little before next wearing it to put the bins out.

P.S. to the person who pointed out the irony of me saying I won't wear ill-fitting clothes and then proudly linking to this shapeless wonder... this outfit does, oddly, fit me really well! Somehow emphasises my waist (which is still reasonable as I plunge into middle age) and skims my ample arse perfectly. But I do see what you mean

I LOVE those trousers 😃 I wonder if you could wear heels and a different top, something more dressy?

Wow people have been pretty rude here OP! Glad you’re taking it with some humour. I actually think these would be fine for a wedding, and I would much rather be comfortable for the eating and drinking and general interminable hanging around that is a wedding than squashed into a floral midi dress with high heels. I would style these with a lovely silk or nice cotton shell top and a cropped patterned jacket and some gorgeous flats. These are both from Vinted. There’s so much 2nd hand stuff out there, loads of fancy things too as people wear them once and sell on. Enjoy your comfy wedding!

sorry this type of thing…
https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/6512092455-batik-patterned-lightweight-summer-crop-blazer-jacket

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/6444319059-accessorize-flat-shoes-with-bead-detail

The trousers and matching shirt are definitely not for a wedding. I think the only way you could get away with this and the silver Birkenstocks is if you are over 75 and need a comfy outfit and shoes for the day.
The outfit looks more like what you’d wear to go to a chain restaurant like tgis or something like that or a day round the shops

I'm glad you have a sense of humour OP because my DH was a bit bemused by four women coming into the pub all wearing wide legged jeans. He wasn't keen (because his sartorial opinion really counts 😄). I said "wait till you see barrel leg trousers" but I haven't been able to find a picture which gives off the Priscilla Queen of the Desert vibe that I was thinking of. Now I have, so thank you.

in my opinion it’s a No. Nothing from Lucy & Yak will likely work and black isn’t the greatest choice for a summer wedding either.

Agree with everyone else - a bit casual. Would be different if your plan was some coloured or sparkly sandals and a fancy top.

I have seen birkenstock/Crocs at a wedding - last wedding I was at was a blisteringly hot day and after the ceremony and the service lots of people ditched the heels for flip flops or sandals for the mingling and dancing.

I think with the right styling (dressier top and shoes - not necessarily heels but maybe something a bit more elegant than Birkenstocks) they'd be absolutely fine for a wedding. The bride and groom presumably know you never wear dresses so I don't think you should radically change your style for one day.

I wkre birkenstocks at the last wedding I went to, but only at the latter part of the evening reception once the dancing started.

Also cotton is not suitable for a more formal occasion.

Of course you can wear cotton on a formal occasion. It depends on the style and colour of the item- not the material.

I think with something like this and pointy toed flats in velvet, satin, metallic or embellished they could scrub up.

Serena Bute shirt

Might work with nice blouse or fancy top. I think as trousers for a wedding they are a tricky call. Black can be a bit more difficult to pull off, these particular trousers have a visible label and elasticated waist making them more casual. The jacket (not sure I'd call that a blazer) that goes with them is definitely not something I see working for a wedding. If you wear a vest top it will add another element of casual styling to the outfit.

There are lots of culottes out there at the moment that could easily style up for a wedding guest outfit. I have some that have an elasticated waistband but it's flat fronted if that makes sense. I wore navy elasticated trs to a Spring wedding with a teal velvet blazer and silk top in same colour. It was a really cold day. I'd originally planned to wear the blazer over a navy dress.

This is a really good idea, imo, OP.

I'm normally one of the people Mumsnet shrieks "No! Too casual for a wedding!" at, so I wanted to like your outfit. But I looked at it in the different colours to get an idea of how the trousers & jacket look together - and they all said Pyjamas or Nurse's Uniform to me 😬

Switching the jacket for something equally relaxed but more 'definite' could do the trick, and Ecclessnake's find is a great example. Then pick up one of the jacket colours for your nice silk vest or t-shirt, or wear a black one. And some jewellery.

Going against the grain but I think it would look great if you dressed it up a bit with a colourful top and jewellery. Especially if it fits you really well.

My friend often wears lovely patterned, draped kimono style jackets over a vest and a trousers for smart work occasions and it looks really elegant.

I really don't understand just how on earth do you live to be middle age and utterly fail to grasp that clown pants and slippers are not a formal wedding attire? Sorry, but...how does this happen? Have you seen any photos from weddings? In the press, on TV, movies? You know, bride in a white dress, quests in formal smart dresses, suits, 2 pieces, men in suits/tuxes? And you whip out cotton clown pants with slippers and think, yep, that'll do just great?

My 12 year old is currently channeling her inner Kurt Cobain in ripped jeans, plaids and manky Converse. But even she grasps the concept of needing smartening up when going to a formal dinner in a restaurant/celebration, never mind someone's actual wedding..

Is this a joke?

Thank you @moltenpink. I've been quite surprised by the strength of feeling 😂
I was thinking if nicely ironed, with bright, clean and smart vest, accessories and sandals (albeit flat ones) it might be quite acceptable for a middle aged woman like me who no longer attracts many gazes anyway (which is absolutely fine!). But I've been interested in the responses and enjoying the helpful ideas and suggestions, some of which make me feel almost excited by clothes again