Is this dress ok for black tie wedding?

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I’ve been invited to a wedding in a few weeks, it’s through DH as it’s his friends really. I bought this dress and have worn it to another wedding. It was expensive so I thought I could wear it to both.

Now DH has told me there is a black tie dress code, the men are to wear tuxedos and no suits. Is it going to be too casual? I thought it may still be ok with dressy heels?

Im pregnant and it’s comfortable too, I really didn’t want to have to shell out on another outfit that I probably won’t wear again!

I have no idea what the difference is between morning suit, black tie or cocktail dress for a woman. I have a couple of dresses I consider suitable for weddings and I would wear one of those regardless of what the invitation said. I have no interest in faffing about and trying to work out the difference between those three things that all sound the same.

You can just google it? Black tie is floor length dresses, cocktail is shorter

Yeah, but I still wouldn't bring myself to care! Pretty much all the dresses I own come to about mid-calf. I'd be wearing one of those regardless.

Would something like this work? Cheap and would cover black tie. Your one is lovely but not very black tie

How strange!
I would hate to go to an event and be so stubborn as to wear the wrong thing on purpose. It’s no issue for me to just do as the hosts request. Like I wouldn’t just ignore a dress code and turn up in jeans somewhere because I felt like it

I wouldn't consider wearing any of the dresses I have that are entirely generally wedding appropriate as "wrong" though. Someone else might but I don't see the difference between those dress codes as anywhere near different from each other to matter or to make a mid-length dress wrong.

No. Not in my experience.

The last one I went to did but it was smart casual and not at all prescriptive. It was more a general guideline for the guests. I have never been to a black tie or very formal wedding.

Yes, and I can't think many people in the UK would know or care about the difference either. I can only think of perhaps very formal military dos having such strict dress requirements.

So many frocks on Vinted for about £10. A maxi, and flats, and whack it back on Vinted the next day.

I have been to several black tie dinners and very few women were wearing floor length dresses.

I agree with @DappledThings and would wear something wedding appropriate. I don't care about being in someone elses wedding photos anyway.

It’s absolutely fine to specify whether an event is white tie, black tie, cocktail, morning suits, lounge suits, casual etc

what is tedious is requiring specific colours/combinations or being rude to those who choose not to adhere.

I don’t think your dress is formal enough. But given you hate the couple, so - in the absence of deciding to stay at home - dress for yourself. If you don’t care that you might be an outlier, then wear the dress. If you’re more inclined to want to fit in get something else.

Bear in mind she will look like she’s dressing wrongly just out of spite. Other guests won’t know OP doesn’t like the bride so will just think she’s Arse. She will also stick out like a sore thumb. If she’s gonna be petty she should just not go and frankly I dunno why she is. Dresses can be rented pretty cheaply nowadays

Highly unlikely. If many people notice at all they will just assume she didn't understand the dress code as they interpret it or just isn't that inerested in fulfilling the minutiae of someone's tedious dress code. It's a dress. It's a dress entirely suitable for a wedding. It will probably look like a number of other dresses there.

Bear in mind she will look like she’s dressing wrongly just out of spite. Other guests won’t know OP doesn’t like the bride so will just think she’s Arse.

No. I doubt it. I think this ^^ says more about you than the guest.

Like @DappledThings I would probably assume that she thought it would be suitable or maybe couldn't afford a new dress. I certainly wouldn't think the OP was being an arse or dressing out of spite. What a horrible thing to say.

I’d bear 2 things in mind.

1. the OP is pregnant and so gets a pass as long as she looks smart.
2. everyone else will be too busy looking at themselves.

Hi OP, I would check out Tiffany Rose’s outlet page on eBay. I bought a lovely maternity gown from there when I was pregnant for my brother’s wedding

WTF wear it .
They are crackers IMHO
Nice frock slip on some wedges hair up & a good make up job .
You’ll ace it .

OP- why are you even going to the wedding if you don’t like these people anyway? Pregnant and on your feet all day and not able to join in with drinking to numb the pain of being with them doesn’t sound like much fun. Send OH on his own.

It's not formal enough.

So what. It is a perfectly suitable dress for a wedding.

Don't go!! If you really want to go, just wear the dress...clothing instructions like this are just too controlling.

Anyone who judges a heavily pregnant woman for not adhering to a very prescriptive dress code at a wedding needs to take a long hard look at themselves.

The dress is lovely and perfectly fine for a wedding.

Definitely wear the dress OP.