Is this dress ok for black tie wedding?

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I’ve been invited to a wedding in a few weeks, it’s through DH as it’s his friends really. I bought this dress and have worn it to another wedding. It was expensive so I thought I could wear it to both.

Now DH has told me there is a black tie dress code, the men are to wear tuxedos and no suits. Is it going to be too casual? I thought it may still be ok with dressy heels?

Im pregnant and it’s comfortable too, I really didn’t want to have to shell out on another outfit that I probably won’t wear again!

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Or rent a dress

Do you actually care? I wouldn’t - it’s a lovely dress and if you’re clean and presentable I would have thought that would be fine. Maybe this is why I don’t get invited to many posh dos 😁

It’s not black tie, but as you’re pregnant, totally fine

your initial statement of you hate weddings with dress codes was rude. Nobody’s forcing you to go.
What's rude about expressing an opinion? I hate them too. I would go or not go depending on how restrictive and tacky said dress code was. Nothing rude about saying they are unnecessary and pretentious in the first place. They are.

These people are arseholes. Wear whatever you want.

It’s long.
it’s not satin.
it’s not white.
They are dicks.

Wear the dress.

Not black tie at all. Way too “informal outdoor summer wedding” - black tie usually means a ballgown or some sort of v formal dress. Or a female tux.

don’t bother going if you don’t like them/ don’t want to bring a gift.

Surely there will be something by seraphine or similar on vinted that has probably only been worn once and can be sold again after the wedding.

That dress is not a black tie dress but the instructions suggest the wedding couple are insufferable so do you care?

There are websites where you can rent formal gowns for not too much money.

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Jeez!!! I’d wear it I think. Honestly is it worth selling out more money . Are you “just” a guest not a special one? You could try and get a similar dress in a plain colour but I wouldn’t try too hard that dress is fine feck em that’s what I say ha ha

Ignore the judgemental posters who go to lots of black tie dos and very formal weddings, and wear the dress.

It is a ridiculous waste of money to buy a dress for a black tie do that you will only wear once. It isn't a casual dress and looks eminently suitable for a wedding

I wouldn't care about sticking out like a sore thumb. You are a guest at a wedding not a fashion show model.

So do I, Mumsnet at its best😊

But it sounds like it will be outdoors. I would ignore their dress demands code and wear the dress.

It would depend for me how your DH felt about this as it’s his mates.
Are you sure you don’t want to send him in his own? This event sounds too much hassle in my books.

Given what they did at your wedding I'd go in full funeral garb and a black hat and veil.

Strange, never heard of outdoor black tie

They sound batshit. Black tie is evening wear, and it’s very gauche to have it for a daytime wedding. All that shit about what fabrics and colours, jeez, talk about notions! Your dress is lovely and actually perfect for a garden party vibe.

Tons of formal Seraphine options on Vinted …YABU

also just found H&M Mama range have some too. Brand new dresses

Stay home OP. You don't like them. They sound batshit. The reasons for not going far outweigh those for going.

They're batshit, but unfortunately I think the stress isn't suitable. Sorry.
Tempting as it is to wear it, you might feel awkward if everyone else has stuck to the dress code.

Is there an option to borrow something from a friend who is a bit bigger than you and/or a friend who might have a smart maternity dress in their cupboard? I had to go to a wedding at 32 weeks pregnant and there was no way I was buying anything I'd only wear once. I borrowed a lovely cocktail dress from a friend who's a couple of sizes bigger than me and, though it wasn't a maternity dress, the shape of it meant I could get away with it.

They're batshit, but unfortunately I think the stress isn't suitable. Sorry.
Totally appropriate typo! The stress about isn't suitable at all. The dress however is.

They're batshit, but unfortunately I think the stress isn't suitable. Sorry.
Tempting as it is to wear it, you might feel awkward if everyone else has stuck to the dress code.

Of course it is suitable. I doubt if the OP will feel awkward.

They're batshit, but unfortunately I think the stress isn't suitable. Sorry.
Totally appropriate typo! The stress about isn't suitable at all. The dress however is.

Ha ha! And yes, the stress isn't suitable either.
If I were the OP I'd be too worried about it not being black tie. But I would much rather wear it and front it up. So do that, OP, if you're braver than me!

This!