Is this dress ok for black tie wedding?

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I’ve been invited to a wedding in a few weeks, it’s through DH as it’s his friends really. I bought this dress and have worn it to another wedding. It was expensive so I thought I could wear it to both.

Now DH has told me there is a black tie dress code, the men are to wear tuxedos and no suits. Is it going to be too casual? I thought it may still be ok with dressy heels?

Im pregnant and it’s comfortable too, I really didn’t want to have to shell out on another outfit that I probably won’t wear again!

I think they’re hoping for some of it to be outside so could be on grass.

The dress is mint velvet. Having been to dozens of weddings over the years I thought it would be perfect for both so I’m mainly annoyed I have to get a different outfit!

They sound very fur coat and no knickers.
Hope you are giving them a gift that matches what they gave you.

We won’t be taking anything, don’t worry!

Wesr it.

Their brief is OTT. It does fit the length of dress code.
You are pregnant, you need comfort. You don't want to buy a dress that will be worn for just that event. They can airbrush you out of photos if they want.

https://clubllondon.com/collections/maternity-black-tie

How tall are you? I have a full length Formal midnight blue maternity dress that you can have. I went to a formal Ball while pregnant. I’ve always wanted to find a home for it. Will dig out a photo, would be happy to post it you.

It's midi, it's patterned, wear it and hold your head up high. I'd deliberately fudge the black tie instructions, what a pair of snooty false people these sound.

Team that lovely dress with a beautiful silky shawl, wear a gorgeous pair of shades, and if you must flamboyant headwear from Ebay, Etsy or Amazon even. You will look gorgeous.

I don't obey orders that are prescriptive. I wouldn't embarrass myself or them either mind you, but what you have shown will do the job.

Wear your lovely dress and to hell with their ridiculous dress code, down to the fabric, length, colour. Go and put your feet up while they're pfaffing with their stupid Instagram nonsense, or stand at the back.

This is nuts.

Literally, who cares?

Quite a few special occasions dresses on vinted by seraphine maternity wear of various colours and sizes. Definitely worth a look!

It’s not black tie but also what with being pregnant I think you could get away with it by adding some sparkly accessories and glam makeup

Wear your lovely dress and save your money for more important things. I doubt you'll be the only one there who doesn't strictly follow such a stupid 'code'. They are batshit.

The dress is long, I’m 5ft 7 and it’s down to the floor on me. I wore it wearing flats and had to hitch it up when walking.

No. Way too casual.

I think you'd get away with it, especially being pregnant!

Having read all your updates I think you should wear this existing dress. Or tell your DH to go by himself.

They sound awful. So many threads about weddings and dress codes and women wearing gowns now rather than dresses. I'm going to a normal unpretentious wedding this year and I found it hard enough to find a dress for that.

That is the stupidest dress code I have ever seen. Heavy satin is the epitome of formal wear for women, I cannot imagine what makes it objectionable (as long as it is not white). As for prescribing shoes, words fail me.

Your dress is most definitely on the casual side. How comfortable will you be on the day, knowing that? If you (and possibly DH) are fine with it, I wouldn’t worry further.

The colours are lovely so if they suit you that is a big plus. Great accessories can also make a difference

The dress code is ridiculously pretentious. I'd always feel more uncomfortable being overdressed than underdressed. That dress is fine.

I think you have a lot of valid reasons for wearing this dress.

I am sure there are people out there who would happily rock up in a dress like this without even trying to dress it up - and I’m trying to think what is the worst thing that could happen to someone in a dress that’s SLIGHTLY WRONG!

If you are going for your husbands sake, and he’s happy - I say save the money and be comfortable.

By the way I bet if you bought some amazing hat, bling jewellery or accessory from vinted that was a bit ‘over the top’ - it would look fine and dandy.

I went to a wedding a few years ago - my idiot ex husband never showed me an actual invite which was from his work colleague.

We arrived at the wedding to find out from other guests that the invite was black tie and the women were asked to wear colourful (flowery) frocks.

My then husband was in a plain suit and I was in a trouser/jacket combo (solid colours).

But I enjoyed myself at the wedding just as much, and as I didn’t know anyone it hardly mattered what they thought.

After reading the batshit invite, wear the dress.

If they’re saying ‘black tie’ are they paying for your new outfit? Thought not. Wear what you like that you’ll probably wear again. This wedding dress code malarkey is getting ridiculous!

Don’t bloody go then.

Edited as I’ve since seen your more recent posts.

I wouldn’t be bloody going with that ridiculous over the top dress code but your initial statement of you hate weddings with dress codes was rude. Nobody’s forcing you to go.

I would wear your dress. I could not be faffed with all the rules. It's not like you're proposing to wear a strapless cotton beach dress. We went to a wedding when I was similar stage of pregnancy. DH's friends, who I'm not overly bothered about. We didn't know many people and were definitely just in the background. We're just in the one photo of all guests, which I've never even seen. I'm sure no one will think anything other than "oh you're pregnant and don't you look lovely".