Wedding guest - farm rio

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Hi all! Can I wear this to a summer wedding? I’m early 40s, short but never wear heals (flatforms are ok), a chubby size 12. I’m also close family and a witness. I REALLY struggle with this kind of thing - formal clothes just never seem to work for me. Any other suggestions?!
Also, what are Farm Rio like from a quality perspective?
farmrio.uk/products/fruit-garden-scarf-orange-midi-dress?_pos=302&_fid=6b1e0de1d&_ss=c&variant=47527455392058

I was going to say, Well from that description, the Farm Rio dress couldn't be more perfect - then you posted that you've bought it - so now I just want to say, I'm delighted for you!

I don't think it's at all wrong to 'stand out' at a wedding, if everyone knows you love colour and your style is unconventional anyway. All you're doing is adding a happy vibe to proceedings. Besides which it screams smart/fashiony to me, not remotely beachy!

It’s a beautiful dress and I’m sure you’ll look great and be happy with your choice , so much more joyous than a grim Hobbs or Phase Eight frock ….
Who cares if we shouldn’t wear x or y because we have , insert whatever perceived “ flaw “ you like here .
I dislike the term flattering anyway , you know what you like and enjoy wearing , so have a wonderful day at the wedding

@EspanaPorfavor I have been seriously considering that one to wear to my DD's wedding, it is lovely, but I think the cut-out bits would be a bit too young for an oldie like me!

It's gorgeous, but I don't think dresses like this are particularly flattering for short, chubbier people: you don't want to end up looking like a pumpkin.

Love that. It’s gorgeous

Just posting to say that I think the dress is absolutely gorgeous. Bleached hair and a tan and oh my days you'll look glorious. If I could afford it I'd buy it but I can't so I have to insist that you must. 😀

Thank you, I’m so please with it! I think you could, I’m going to wear it at work and tie the belt around the cut outs to hide them and then wear it the way in the picture for outside of work. It’s too pretty to save for best!!

I love it! Would these be too much heel - https://joanieclothing.com/montpellier-suede-platform-sandals-blue.html ? If so maybe a chunky metallic platform? Agree with a structured straw bag or clutch. I’d also probably add big earrings - I quite like the gold flowers here - www.etsy.com/uk/shop/DesignbyWillowBranch?ref=shop-header-name&listing_id=1735725478&from_page=listing

I absolutely love farm rio and have heaps.of it. Wore a farm Rio suit to my sons wedding. Don't like that particular dress though but I've not had any issues with quality.

It's a great dress but it won't work at a traditional English church wedding. What is the style of the wedding you are due to attend?

Wow, I love this. From the description I was fully prepared not to.

Sigh. I am much too old to buy it. It's lovely.

The OP's dress? What age restriction do you think should apply to it?

Well, I'm in my 70s so I think it's much too young for me. Would be fine for OP who obviously likes it (it's v. likeable). Try not to be so judgemental about other's assessment of what they can wear. I made a light-hearted comment on someone deciding to buy the dress, saying I thought it was too young for ME (alas). That's all. I find S and B useful for finding dresses/clothes in general that I like and often purchase them - but I bear in mind my age.

It’s lovely but if you’re small and Chubby this dress will ‘wear’ you.

The orange Farm Rio dress linked to in the initial post is fabulous! I think it will be perfect for a wedding. Nonsense about the sleeves making her look bigger, they balance the shape of the dress.

Much prefer FR to Rixo in terms of pretty much everything, particularly the quality.

Do hope you were able to find time to go back and read the thread!

Blimey what kind of beaches do some of you go to? I think it's a lovely dress and great for a witness at a wedding as it's joyful, standout but not bridal (which I thought was the main concern on threads like this?)

I'm useless at shoes and bags I'm afraid but I'm sure you'll get some great suggestions. Enjoy.

This is so rude considering OP has said she's now bought it.

Also I'll shout this on these boards till my lungs give out- CLOTHES DON'T HAVE TO BE FLATTERING TO BE NICE CLOTHES

I too am in my 70s. In my heart I'd love to wear the dress that OP has her eye on but my head tells me to get real.

Although I don't believe “age appropriate” should be rigidly applied, there are situations where it should be and it's silly to imply otherwise.

As to the main question: it's a beautiful dress perfectly suitable for the type of wedding OP has described.

I agree with you but I would rephrase:

"FLATTERING" DOES NOT MEAN "APPEARING TO TAKE UP LESS SPACE"

I have looked at this dress three times and it's growing on me. I do like it better than the Jolie Moi dresses.
I wear bright colour all the time. ( am dark skinned).
Used to avoid puff sleeves like the plague but lately have found some I like after much experimentation. Am also a 12.

I love pumpkins and will be delighted to look like one in my amazing new dress 😂 WHICH ARRIVES TODAY!!!

I just wanted to say thanks for all the support and lovely comments on this thread. And to the people who don’t like the dress - it’s helpful to hear the other side. It is a stand out dress and I guess I’ll know what any snippy guests might be thinking!
To answer a few comments.
I’ve worn ‘traditional wedding guest’ outfits in the past and have found that they absolutely ‘wear me’ and I just never feel right. I don’t mind that I’m a bit short and chubby (but I think unfit and untoned is maybe a better description!) I am very happy to take up my space in things that I love, even if they don’t traditionally flatter me. I’m not actually known for bright colours (I was a teenage goth!) but am for things that are a bit out of the norm and so I don’t think this will be a surprise to anyone there. Although I won’t know about 95% of the guests, despite being close family, so at least I’ll be easy to point out and identify. ..!

Good for you OP I think the dress is absolutely gorgeous and what matters is that you will enjoy wearing it !!!