DD (10) has upper lip hair

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Can't bring myself to call it a moustache but that's what it is. She's becoming understandably very self conscious about it and is wanting to do something about it but I don't know how to go about it most effectively. It's very fine but dark hair that sometimes you can't see at all depending on the light.

Is it going to get worse as she enters puberty?

Could you either bleach it with Jolen or get it threaded? My DD is 11 and I've waxed her for the past year as she was v embarrassed about it x

Bleach works fine. And it’s easy for her to do for herself after the first time.

A hair removal cream could be a good option if she wants to remove it completely rather than bleaching? You can get small facial epilators that are good but obviously they’re painful and probably not the best option for a 10 year old!

If you and she want to remove it, dermaplaning is the least invasive. They come in pastel and bright colours so don't look too like male shaving supplies.

https://amzn.eu/d/ilEiE0j

There is nothing precocious about a pre-teen removing unwanted facial hair, so help her to find a convenient and effect removal method.

Bleach works fine on some skin tones, but you could always pay for her to be waxed, or buy strips, or even a warm wax kit for her to use herself.

Home IPL will remove it permanently.

You could get her some tinkles from Amazon. I'm a menopausal woman, so also plagued with hormones, but these little razors have been a game changer!

I've had this problem since I was 10 and have only recently found this amazing device from boots which I'm going to find and link to in a minute. Honestly I can't believe I struggled for so long when it's so simple. Quick, painless, doesn't cause hair to grow back thicker. And the size of a lipstick (ISH).

www.boots.com/nu-you-facial-hair-remover-10338240?CAWELAID=620000410000835532&msclkid=cd32bb1e294417536264dcd6fec08a88&utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=pmax_electricalbeauty__mc_shopping_____pmedia&utm_term=2322993192328410&utm_content=Electrical%20Beauty%20BAU%202025&gclid=cd32bb1e294417536264dcd6fec08a88&gclsrc=3p.ds

Yes, it will probably get more noticeable as she hits puberty.

It can have social and emotional fallout. Kids can be unkind.

See a beautician for advice about how to tackle it.

Can't you just show her how to safely shave it off? Bleach isn’t a good way to deal with it, the hair will still be there and visible especially if light hits it, plus it could irritate her skin making it even worse. I've had the same issue and shaving it off regularly is fine, even around multiple piercings. It doesn't ever come back thicker or darker, that's a myth. I've shown DD how to do it too. A few quick swipes when necessary, problem solved. There are small razor type things you can get for this, or just use a normal razor carefully.

Thank you, everyone! I'll look at all the options. I've been waxing mine forever and I've used a home laser removal thing as well, although it's not been as effective on my upper lip hair as it has elsewhere on my body.

Really appreciate all the replies.

I’ve had the same issue since I was younger. It didn’t grow in like Tom Selleck luckily but I still have to maintain it, usually with tweezers 😬

My DD is the same, she's been using the finishing touch flawless since she was 8 and it's been fab!

If you have any Asian friends, ask where they get their threading done. It's an effective method in safe hands. The person who does needs to be comfortable with such a young person.
It's a common problem in Asians and I know a lot of young girls who get their hair removed by threading.

Beware. If you shave it off it will return darker, bushier and thicker.

It doesn't, that's physically impossible
It looks thicker because it's a blunt end
I've been dermaplaning my face for years and shaving my legs for around 28 years and my leg hair is still blonde

This is what I use and all 3 DDs (ages 13 and 17). Safe and easy to use.

My daughter had this at 10 - we went for hair removing cream as bleach still shows the hairs - and she's very happy with it. For her legs she uses one of the devices that rubs the hair away. I'm totally supportive of getting it done.

I help my DD12 bleach hers with Jolene.

DD (now 16) has upper lip hair and has since she was little. We've used Jolen, and Immac, but we eventually bought this and she's not had a problem since:

https://www.boots.com/finishing-touch-flawless%E2%84%A2-face-10278138?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiArKW-BhAzEiwAZhWsIJ7vBQ0QiiE2DfFe-a-URYJNIttrt52xO94iWkdb7mhiU5uxDsE_PBoClYcQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Bleach it until she is older, then get proper laser (not IPL )from a reputable company if suitable and it will be worth the investment, as all it will reduce the volume and eventually rid of it over time and need occasional top ups.
all other methods get grow back and short term solutions. Laser is not that painful either compare to electrolysis or plucking.

There’s a very similar thread from a few days ago if you search. You want a “finishing touch flawless facial hair remover” - from boots, Amazon etc - little electric razor which whizzes over painlessly, takes a few seconds. Bleach just gives you a blond tache, removal cream can be too harsh for young skin. Waxing and threading require you to grow it out inbetween. After years of hair removal cream I got one for my daughter and now we both use it (tried it out first on me and it’s a game changer!).

Do take care if using hair remover cream as it made my face very sore. indeed. I actually find going to an Asian lady for threading is the best. I use an epilator as well. I hope your daughter is ok as teenagers can be sensitive about issues.

Thank you for the additional replies. I think the Flawless gadget is a good place to start. I've used bleaching and removing creams myself in the past and it wasn't great for my skin so that looks good, especially given all the great recommendations here. I think it will be easier for her to do herself as well.

Buy a laser machine.

I'm the hairiest woman alive and my children are almost certainly going that way.

We will pay for professional laser at 16/17/18 but in the mean time, will use the at home ones.