Honest thoughts on these shoes...?

[LancsLass1]

I want some shoes for an upcoming holiday which will involve a lot of walking around cities, could be rainy at times, could be hot and sunny at other times (Autumn in Japan!)

I'm trying to take the smallest amount of clothes/ shoes possible, so I'm looking for something that's OK for walking in the day but also could be dressed up a bit going to restaurants at night (nowhere super posh).

I'm in my mid-30's. Are these stylish or are they terrible? I like the colour but really can't tell if they are more suitable for someone much older...

If you don't like them do you have any other suggestions that are good day-to-night shoes that can do for walking around and also restaurants?

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BHTFDTFZ?ref=ppxyo2ovdtbfedasintitle

They're not the nicest...

A simple white pair of trainers would be nicer and more versatile!

I'm not sure why you've taken such offence at my comment about older people having a preference for practical and comfortable shoes. It's true

@LancsLass1 stop digging the hole … Just accept that older people are not one homogenous group. People over 60 on this thread have told you what they each individually think. It’s not … edifying for you to tell them that you have greater clarity on how they choose to dress.

Enjoy your trip!

So jealous of your trip OP! I’ve always wanted to go to Japan. I’m glad you’ve ordered some Nike trainers. As an aside I wouldn’t buy clothes/ shoes off Amazon but maybe that’s just me? I would rather buy direct or even better try them on in store first.

Please can you show me where I said that older people are a homogenous group? I didn't say that people over 60 count as 'older people', either. You're the one putting a number on it.

Shops geared towards an older customer base sell more comfortable footwear. That's just true. Older people often prefer more comfortable footwear because they might have aches, pains, etc. There is nothing wrong with that.

As someone in my 30's, I don't want people to look at me and think that I am wearing clothes meant for people much older than me. That's not an unusual thing for a person my age to say. It's not ageism. It's just not wanting to look like something I am not.

Chill, please, and stop trying to find things to take offence at. I have plenty of friends between the ages of 60-95 and none of them would say that I treat them as a homogenous group.

Why did you send them back if they were extremely comfortable, well fitting and supportive? Surely that's everything you needed? I said they didn't look supportive because I based it not actually having a pair of them in my hands

I'm in my mid-30's. Are these stylish or are they terrible? I like the colour but really can't tell if they are more suitable for someone much older...

And this comment probably didn't do you any favours as it heavily implies that they are terrible and therefore suitable for someone much older.

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Those shoes seem like a practical choice for your trip! The color is nice and versatile, which makes them easy to dress up for a casual dinner.

You get worse with every post.

As the late lamented Victoria Wood would have said. “Ooh, they look comfy”.

If you're not going to elaborate or articulate what you actually mean, there isn't much point in commenting.

@LancsLass1 , you come across as rude, and many of us on here are quite a bit older than you and have far better taste in shoes.
If you are taking white shoes, make sure they are ones that wipe clean.
Nikes vary in terms of comfort and tend to be small and narrow for the size on the label.

Shoes that look like they are meant for an elderly person with arthritis would be a terrible choice for someone in their 30's, though. I'm often pretty out of the loop on fashion and get it wrong, and was asking for opinions.

I think people are projecting their own age-related insecurities and reading things into my posts which are not there.

I love that you said I am rude and immediately proceeded to comment on my bad taste. I mean, that's pretty rude also.

I didn't say you had bad taste, only that many of us have better taste.

Your casual ageism is depressing. You can't even see it. You are making sweeping generalisations about "older people" and what you think they like.

The shoes seem to fit your requirements yet you haven't kept them. Why not? Fear of wearing "clothes suitable for someone much older"- whatever that's supposed to be.

As YellowphantGrey pointed out

You asked "I'm in my mid-30's. Are these stylish or are they terrible? I like the colour but really can't tell if they are more suitable for someone much older..."

Yes, they are terrible. Why do you think "someone much older" will want to wear terrible shoes?

Oh and get this - you've got friends who are older.

You are making sweeping generalisations about "older people" and what you think they like.

I didn't say that older people don't wear fashionable shoes, or that all older people wear a certain type of shoe. You are making assumptions.

I said that shops which cater for older people often sell orthopaedic shoes which are supportive for people with arthritis, aches and pains etc. Which they do. I didn't put a value judgement on that. It is just true.

Shoes like that would be a terrible choice for me, as someone in my mid-30's without those issues.

You are projecting, and you do not know anything about me.

Moda in Pelle do similar but nicer.

Well I am older with arthritis and struggle with laces and I would happily wear them. Doesn't mean you should! I would avoid zips if I didn't struggle as I think that's the vibe you don't want.

I would definitely take 2 pairs of shoes though, your feet don't want to be in the same pair day and night for a whole trip.

Have a super time, I loved my trip to Japan.

I just had one pair of trainers for two weeks in Japan that I also wore on the plane. We were moving around and I really wanted to minimise stuff to carry. It was fine, and I didn’t need another pair. But I didn’t go out for fancy dinners etc. I was too tired by the end of the day!

I would suggest looking for something that’s waterproof if you just go for one pair.

Oh and unless you are staying in a place for a while, luggage forwarding seemed more faff that just packing light to me - who can be bothered to work out what stays and what goes at each move, and it takes at least a day to catch you up.

For Japan you need one pair of light weight trainers and another pair in whatever style suits or fits you well.
I personally wouldn't do too scruffy (unless you are a hippy type) because Japanese people are very clean and neatly dressed.
They love UK style so admire more fashionable brits, but it doesn't sound as if that is you, so go for comfortable but tidy.

I was in Japan for two weeks in May and had one pair of shoes - New Balance 990v4 (or v6, I can't remember. They are nice enough though, in a neutral cream/beige colour). DH ended up going for the same ones but grey, and we both recommend them wholeheartedly. Blissfully comfortable all day.

Also, our hotels had shoe dryers, which I thought was a funny contraption but it turned out be so useful, I bought one from Amazon as soon as I got home we were lucky that it only rained the day we arrived but we still used the dryer most days to sort out the sweatiness after hours of walking.

Don't worry too much about going from "day to night" for restaurants either; in most places, there's no expectation to dress up. I can't speak for Ultra Fancy and Expensive places but no matter where we ate, it didn't look like anyone had changed before going out for dinner.

Sorry not rtft but wear your bulkiest shoes for travel (the comfy walking ones) and pack squish a couple of pairs of lighter weights dressier shoes (sandal/dressy flats etc)

I don't hate those shoes you linked but think there might be alternatives out there- metallic are my go to. Dress up/down, goes day to night ime but that's just me

I'm 56 and they are too frumpy for me. Sorry

Btw, I’m very jealous. Japan is wonderful.

It really infuriates me when people say others are projecting their own insecurities onto others, evenmorso over a pair of bloody shoes.

No one is projecting, just simply pointing out that you can't refer to a pair of shoes as being terrible and therefore more suited to older people.

It's a good example of casual ageism and other people are perfectly entitled to pull you up on it.

It's that type of attitude that goes hand in hand with deciding that someone is too old to wear shorts or too old to have bare arms.

You say you're mid 30s so I'm guessing your nearer to 40 than 30 and therefore it won't be long at all before people start directing those comments at you and accusing you of projecting your own age related insecurities.

You are part of the problem that supports and encourages ageism and then telling people it's their own insecurities that are the problem is even worse.

Just maybe think before you speak next time and stop thinking ugly and awful shoes are suitable for older people.