Is this too close to white for a wedding?

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DH thinks this dress is too close to white for a wedding, but I think it's fine.

I'd love third opinions!

For context, the bride herself is not wearing white, in case that has any bearing on it.

www.meandem.com/cotton-jacquard-gardenia-print-maxi-dress-light-cream-blue

I think the rule of thumb with this is - if you have to ask, wear something else!

I think here I’d definitely rethink as if the bride isn’t in white, you could end up being the only person in a group photo who looks as if she is in white. As others have said, the blue pattern won’t show in a group photo

Usually my answer is if you have ro ask then it's too white but I don't think that on is at risk of being confused with a bridal dress. Agree though that if bride might not be wearing white then you might be the closest to a white dress there is. Also the point about photos from a distance.

surely i am not alone in genuinely and truly
not giving a hoot if any of my guests turned up in white?

or black
or pink
or fluorescent yellow

i was just so happy that they were there to share the day

Too white IMO, it's the one event where you have to avoid one colour. Why do people find it so difficult?

@tomketchup it's common knowledge to avoid white for a western wedding, ignoring that etiquette seems like a massive F you to the bride and groom. It's not the fact they're wearing white, it's what it symbolises. (For clarity, I don't think this is OP's intention in this case, especially as the dress isn't bridal. But why risk it?)

Would you wear blue jacket and shoes? Maybe to make it really clear?

what colour is the bride wearing?

I personally think that if anyone disagrees (like your husband) then there is a chance someone at the wedding party will also disagree. Is it worth upsetting the bride? Do you think it would upset her? It’s almost worse the bride isn’t wearing white as you may be the closest to looking bridal. Just go with something else. It’s her day.

I think it will look fine on the day but show up white in the photos. SOme other options might be

https://www.meandem.com/lace-flower-print-colour-block-shirt-maxi-dress-belt-black-pink-cream?glCountry=GB&glCurrency=GBP&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIzKiK7IqXhwMVGZVQBh07CAoEEAQYDiABEgJ0NPD_BwE#288=1807

https://www.wolfandbadger.com/uk/cotton-annabel-maxi-dress-in-green-with-white-blue-flower/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=18057196750&utm_content=&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIzKiK7IqXhwMVGZVQBh07CAoEEAQYEyABEgKyRfD_BwE

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/abriella-floral-broderie-midi-dress-22154608108.html?istCompanyId=c38fe7a0-ffd0-4925-94b3-cff8df449484&istFeedId=5a41320b-c741-4d1e-b90d-1091450d147c&istItemId=rmwtxwilr&istBid=t&cq_src=google_ads&cq_cmp=19651720071&cq_net=x&cq_plt=gp&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=19651720071&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIzKiK7IqXhwMVGZVQBh07CAoEEAQYGCABEgKSuPD_BwE

https://www.reallywildclothing.com/liberty-silk-frill-collar-dress-navy-flower?gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIgvab6YuXhwMVjJJQBh1-KgbkEAQYDSABEgKmXPD_BwE

It's a bit bland.

It’s lovely. Wear it. A wedding is an invite, not a summons so wear what makes you happy and is comfortable.

This : OK if you add a royal blue jacket / wrap / pashmina & bag, shoes and possibly belt or hat.

i’m in the Uk

and my point was… i couldn’t have cared less what colour my guests wore!

Please don’t add bright blue accessories. Would ruin the dress.

I think it’s lovely for a wedding

I didn't say you weren't? But the reason for avoiding white in other cultures is different (e.g. can be the colour of mourning). Same as you'd avoid wearing red to a Chinese wedding, and I bet you wouldn't criticise a Chinese bride for asking guests to avoid red as a sign of cultural respect?

Would be fine if the bride was in a traditional gown, but if there is a risk it might be similar to her outfit I’d steer clear of it.

yes but telling me what was “common knowledge” in the west would indicate you thought i didn’t know that

i do

My question was am i alone in truly not giving a fig

i am not criticising anyone for doing anything! 😆

I was being very specific about…. my perspective* at my *wedding

Too white IMO, it's the one event where you have to avoid one colour.

no guest at my wedding had to avoid wearing any colour!

out of pure nosiness @JudgeBurrito if one of your guests had turned up in this dress, would you have said anything to the guest? would you have made a comment about the guest to a friend / sister or just kept thought to yourself that inappropriate?

When I opened it, my first thought, but said it was a white dress. The fact that the bride is not wearing white makes it even worse, as in photographs, yours will be the outfit that draws the eye. That coral dress up thread is a lovely.

i didn’t realise the bride wasn’t even wearing white

so she’s obviously not a stickler for tradition OP and i would wager she wouldn’t think in the slightest bit inappropriate

i just think your DH doesn’t like it!

Nope, I said 'it's common knowledge to avoid white for a western wedding' to account for other cultures and religions who may have different traditions. Whether the wedding is in the UK or not.

A guest did turn up to my evening reception in a plain white sundress (a work colleague of DH's), and while I didn't of course say anything due to manners, I did wonder why she chose to wear it. A couple of friends have since commented on it too. Nobody is having an attack of the vapours or anything, just a raised eyebrow.

i bet she looked lovely

mine was a “western wedding”

and there no “have to” about anything my guests chose to wore 🤷

Hmm - I think the dress is a tad on the pale side but more to the point - it’s quite pretty but not very memorable and surely not worth £325? There are more interesting and cheaper options posted on this thread. In your shoes, I would be having a rethink.